When They Split What Have You Heard & Seen

[Rosey87]

Hey all, was wanting to ask what you've seen when your significant other goes through a split and what they may say or do.

My girlfriend/ex has made various accusations, albeit completely false, against me and even my friends.
Accusations of abuse, sexual abuse, being cutoff from her friends and family, this was all my so-called "doing".

She has brought up things that have happened months ago. She's thin, but very healthy and fit, 120 pounds. My father, kind of a dick his self, has told her if she was any thinner she would disappear or if she turned sideways he couldn't see her. She genuinely started crying in the car when we would leave his house. I never tried to bring her there anymore while we were together. But, she brought this up when she began to split me black and acted like it was my fault.
I read that BPD can coincide with eating disorders. She does have one, but have any if you seen it as well?

Also, her appearance changed dramtically when she split me black. Dyed her hair like three different colors and began wearing heavy, heavy make up. Is this a symptom of splitting someone black too?

Let me know guys, hope you're all having a great day.

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[Meili]

I think that a great many of us here have dealt with the "it's all your fault" accusations. Some, myself included, have experienced far worse false accusations also.

I wouldn't think that her change in diet and appearance fall under the category of splitting you black. They all do probably stem from the same dysregulation though.

[tangomurete]

when the bfBPD splits i get all kinds of things.  i usually get everything from attacking my personal appearance (lots of name calling), to bringing up the past before i was with him (i've had to deactivate my social media accounts cause he stalks me and my friends), to his life is crap because of me and everything is my fault.  i've been accused of not caring / loving him because i didn't plan well enough when he visits (although when i ask for help / his opinion, he's always too busy) and i've been accused of things i've never done like cheating, calling someone else's name in bed, and other various things.  he also likes to threaten that the relationship is over.  i try to reason with him, empathize with him,  and talk to him, but sometimes it gets a bit hard.  when i can't take it anymore and i stop talking to him (when it gets to this i tell him i want to end it and to let me go), he'll start calling (one time it was over 100 times in a day!) until i answer or he'll threaten suicide if i don't answer.  at that point i tell him i'll talk to him if he can be nice, he promises, and like i fool i answer... .and the hatred ensues.  this has lasted any where from a couple of hours to a week i think was the longest period i've encountered.  it's exhausting, and i'm still learning how i can make things better for the two of us.