Best friend has just been diagnosed BPD

[Amonski]

Hi All

My best friend of 15yrs has just recently been diagnosed BPD. We live in Scotland and I am looking for some reading material to help us understand more about BPD and what the future has in store for us and our friendship. Our friendship is strong, but I really want to learn more so she doesn't have to go through this alone, I have read some stuff online but I would like to give her some books as she doesn't do well with techy stuff, the last few years have been really difficult for her, not knowing why she was feeling so low and waiting so long for help, we finally got the help and it all seemed to make sense at last. I would be grateful for anything just to let her know she isn't alone in all of this.

Thanks in Advance
Amonski 

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[JoeBPD81]

Hi, Amonski

I'm glad you joined us. I'm sorry for the reason. Please you and your friend, be patient. There are a lot or resources here, and around, and no one can take all at once.

We grow "techier" in time. The important thing is that the more you know, the more tools you'll have to manage the situation and make your lives better. But this is a marathon, it's not a magic pill, it's a new training to learn to live happier.

I recomend "The budha and the borderline" Reviews here: (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=133356.0)

It's a 1st person experience, and it helped my girlfriend to reach out to others and know she is not alone.

I recomend to have a look at the lessons in this place, and slowly make them your own. It helps with any relationship, not just BPD, even with the RS with ourselves.

Also, be active in the forums, so you know you are not alone, and you let others know they are not alone either. That makes a difference.

I love Scotland, I'm very jealous 

Hope to hear from you soon.

[RolandOfEld]

Hi Amonski, joining JoeBPD81 in welcoming you!

Seconding Joe that this is a process that take a lot of time. The more you learn, the more space you'll feel you have to negotiate in terms of helping and understanding your friend. I think that's the first thing you can do to be there her.

How did she come by the diagnosis and how is she responding so far?

~ROE