Wow so Familiar Sister with BPD

[Broken1969]

I've read a lot of stories on here and a lot of them really hit home.

My sister is BPD... .not officially diagnosed but HER doctor has told me she is BPD but dares not tell her because she'd never believe it (her words)... .also both my psych and therapist told me years ago she was BPD based on stories i've told them.

It's gotten really bad over the past few years. She had to live alone for a while and she does not do well however no one else wants to live with her because she's so mean and nasty and vindictive and just a miserable person. She's been living at my mother's house for a while now (while her FREE family-condo sits empty) and she's been so horrible to my mom. She gets into rages and won't let go!

I hate that I've been advised not to tell her (according to all the books)... .it seems if only she'd accept it (which i doubt she would) then she could maybe have a happier life.

I'm not a mean person... .I WISH she could have a normal life or even a simple, content life but I seriously doubt it.

I often come here to post but don't even know what to say that hasn't already been said. My mother and I are loosing our sanity over this. It's devastating!

Thank you for reading this.

[Turkish]

What kinds of behaviors are you and your mom losing your sanity over? Is your mother safe grin her? I'm thinking elder abuse... .

[HappyChappy]

Hey Broken1969,

So sorry you are both having to endure this. Your sister does sound very challenging. It may help if you detail some of the challenging behaviour, as there are know techniques that help you get the best out of someone with BPD.

Also, you may not be able to change your sisters mind set, but there is quiet a lot you can do to help yourself, and mother. You do sound as if you feel a level of responsibility still, for your sister. Totally understandable, but is this helping your own state of mind ? Putting your sister to one side, what things are you doing to help your own mental health ? Welcome to the forum btw.