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[Fuengirola]

I just find out my partner is diagnosed with NPD and BPD.
I have been in this relationship over 30 years. We have 2 daughters. I have known that it was difficult for me to set bounderies. I have a narcissistic stephmother.
What is the best way for me to handle this?

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[once removed]

hi Fuengirola, and

30 years is a long time. a lot invested. likely, a lot of conflict too.

tell us more about your relationship. what led up to your partners diagnosis and how are you both taking it?

[Radcliff]

Let me join once removed in welcoming you.  The answers to the questions he asked will help us support you better.  This is a great community in which to get support and learn.

RC