My wife love me and hate

[bfl]

Hi. i have been together with my xwife for 27 years. We got divorced 4 years ago. In the last 4 year she has been asking me to come back just to lovebomb me and after a while she would cut me off. I stoped all contact the last year (phone ,email, facebook etc..). In april i got in contact with her because our son bought a new house and then she started love bombing me and promising all the thing she know i like. At that time she had already split op the family, my daughter didn't want to talk to me and my son had moved out from my wife house, so my wife was alone in the house with my 22 years old daughter. my xwife told me that she wanted my daughter to move out because she was behaving terrible and she wanted med back because as she said my daughter should not come between her love and mine. I fell for it, because she was acting different and she was putting me in the role as the important person. So i moved out of my place and came back to my originally house where i had lived for 15 years with my family. My daughter got very angry when my wife told her that i was moving in again. My xwife gave her 2 options "deal with or move out". My daughter delt with it for 3 weeks and then she moved out. My xwife said it was ok, but after a week she changed in a hostile way against me and now she was blaming me. I have told my wife she is the only one who can get the family together again, but she refuse and she has asked me to move out again. It was said in a moment of rage. Despite all her rage i love her and i can deal with her behaviour, but when she order me to move out of the house again its like my foundation is being swiped away under me. My question is? do i move? or do i give it bit of time until she calms down, because what i read about bpd is that they don't really mean what they say when they are angry. When she doesn't have these rages she can be a very lovely person and that is the person i love.  Please help  best love bfl

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