Reaching out about physically abusive daughter

[Shonnie]

Hi, I am not sure what to say. My 13 Yr old daughter is currently living in a residential facility that I placed her in after a violent attack on me. Two days ago I was told that a protection order is being placed on me by child safety because they perceive the act of me putting her in care as emotionally damaging to her. My daughter has been informally been diagnosed bpd and is currently in process of obtaining formal diagnosis. It has been suggested that she also has conduct disorder.  I am on this site because I want to meet other parents with similar experiences to mine. I have been getting abused for the last yr and due to her age the police will do nothing about it. She has ripped off 4 doors, smashed walls, a hit me almost weekly for the last 6 months. I put her in care because she was throwing chairs at me and threatening to slit my throat.. Everyday I think it is as bad as it can possibly get but then it gets worse. I don't know how to keep going. It's just shocking.  

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[FaithHopeLove]

Hi Shonnie
Welcome to the parenting group. I am glad you reached out to us and sorry for what brings you here.  This is great group for you to get emotional support and practical advice from other parents of BPD children and I hope you will stay. But first things first. It sounds like your daughter is a real danger to others and possibly to herself as well. You are right to put safety first. In light of the probation order against you (which I do not understand) it seems like you need some legal advice about how best to keep you and your daughter safe. I am thinking that, in addition to posting here you may want to visit the family law group. They may be able to help you understand what your legal rights are. Do you have an attorney helping you already?

[Blueskyday]

Sounds to me like she's been telling a story. You have no doubt been painted as a terrible Mother and abusive by her. Lord only knows where these stories can end if it is so.

I agree, you need a lawyer yesterday

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I'm sorry to here that you are going through this. It sounds terrible.

Can you give us a few more details?

Is the protective order issued to protect you from your daughter or to protect your daughter from you? What are the terms? If it is the latter does the order, indirectly, provide you some protection?