Stupid spam-mails

[misty_red]

I hate my spam-mails. They drive me nuts. I don’t know why but I always get mails where either the first name of the sender (it’s always a forename and a surename) is my exBPDgf‘s first name or the surname of the sender is her exact surname.

I don’t really think it’s her sending weird spam mails. She’s not that into pc-stuff and couldn’t even do it and I doubt there’s a possibility to do that. I just think this is the universe telling me something. Maybe it’s trying to push me harder to detach. I don’t know. :D Ugh. It p*sses me off. It’s so nonsensically stupid but still. Everytime I see especially her surname I get angry. What a stupid trigger. And it isn’t even her. I don't feel anxiety anymore towards this whole thing, I just want to escape that woman and even though she doesn’t do anything at all I’m still in some way confronted with her/have to think about her.

Sorry, I needed to rant a little. This is getting on my nerves every time I check my mails. I just needed to get this out.

[Mutt]

Hi misty_red,

I don't think it's stupid. I can relate.

E-mail indicators on my phone would trigger anxiety and panic thinking it may be an e-mail from my ex partner.

Detachment takes time.

I purchased an anti-spam app and I'd block her messages to lessen the triggers to cope a little easier until I was further detached. I think whatever strategy helps you.

An option is to create an email filter to block surname and last name.

[Noclevername2020]

This exact same thing has been happening to me every single day ! I don't know how but it didn't happen before the breakup. Emails that have her first name as the title. How?