My bpd ex of 10months broke up with me.it was a long distance relationship. Eveything was great for about 7 months. We talked all the time,saw each other regularly, and he would even introduce me as his wife. He would randomly say things like i have to get you pregnant so you dont leave me...or you don't love me...or accuse me of cheating..Then all of a sudden the affection stopped... no more I love you...we didn't communicate how we used to...it was like he was shutting down...I would ask him if we were ok and he would say yes and we would carry on..he then started canceling our plans to see each other without explanation...one day I asked if he felt he had a strong mental health...he then told me he was diagnosed with bpd in 2016. I researched it but not too much because i wanted to discuss it in person and hear from him what it was. I would Express my concern for the lack of affection and attention..he would say that was at the beginning of the relationship...the things he would say would hurt my feelings alot... so 3 months passed without us seeing each other...so on Christmas eve I went to see him to go to a family dinner...he came downstairs and didn't hug or kiss me..mind you he would short talk me and barely text back until it was convenient for him..the entire night it was like talking to a child...it was like the man I was in love with didn't exist anymore...I tried my best to remain calm and say ok we just need quality time...so last week I went home to see him and it was like chasing a 3yr old to get him to see me...finally I go to his house and I guess the hurt look I had on my face was obvious...the first thing he said was are you here to break up with me..(we were laughing and talking on the phone a few hours earlier).I said no...even though I wanted to because I was extremely tired of this no communication..it didn't feel like a real relationship anymore...but I told him I just wanted to talk about us and how we could fix this...he said he knew he hasn't been a good boyfriend to me...I said ok well let's fix this together if you want to...he looked indifferent...I said do you he said hedid not know... (mind you he knew i was moving there in 2months to be with him)...i said if you dont want the relationship anymore just tell me..if you don't love me just tell me...he said I can tell you're not happy with me..I'm not good at long relationships..I felt he was trying to break up with me first...it was just the way he was talking like he wasn't sure what he wanted to do...so I dont want to be selfish...I said ok fine so this is is breaking up...it was peaceful but I was still hurt...but when I left I felt relieved...I still haven't cried...I do think about him and I love him very much but how much can one person take...everything was great and then it's like he changed into a different person..like he would talk to me out of obligation...there were no more sweet moments unless I did them..his friends or games became more important
..we grew apart..I did everything I could think of for quality time...I was supportive when he was going through things...that's another thing...he stopped telling me important things about life,his job and etc...I know this is probably for the best...but I'm just confused...he knew we were long distance when he came after me...he knew I was moving there to be with him...I gave him everything I had and its like he just stopped loving me and threw me out like a piece of trash...help me understand please
