Finally summoned the courage to remove myself in hope of progress its worse

[Bj684941]

Hello.

This is my first post and the more I am reading about what could potentially be the issue in my marriage the more stupid I feel as it has took 15 years for me to do anything about it.
Our children are 14 and 9! And I just hope I haven’t exposed them to too much over the years by not being stronger sooner. Couple this with huge guilt and fear surrounding moving out, lots of threats and abuse from my wife and her family and I’m struggling a bit.

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[Rev]

Hello.

This is my first post and the more I am reading about what could potentially be the issue in my marriage the more stupid I feel as it has took 15 years for me to do anything about it.
Our children are 14 and 9! And I just hope I haven’t exposed them to too much over the years by not being stronger sooner. Couple this with huge guilt and fear surrounding moving out, lots of threats and abuse from my wife and her family and I’m struggling a bit.

Hello my friend... and welcome and while I am happy you have found us on one hand and on the other, I am sad that you found us.

It was mixed for me.  It was hard. I felt fear. That's what I was struggling with.  And so what are you struggling with exactly?

Write back - check in - you'll find great advice here.  And lots and lots of support.

Rev.