Diagnosis’ vs. the umbrella of trauma and the behaviors that follow

[Our abuse recovery guide]

I understand that labeling our loved ones with something like BPD, NPD, PTSD, C-PTSD and anti social conditions are helpful for many of us to gain our footing and start to recognize what we went through personally. I would’ve never found this community if it weren’t for a label. BPD. It fit, at least in my way of thinking at that time. My son’s mother has NPD/BPD traits. The thing is, so do I. I’m clinically diagnosed with with C-PTSD. It’s an anxiety disorder that is very difficult to navigate. Medication doesn’t help. My head is too strong to give into it. The medication makes me feel worse actually.

I’m hoping to bring empathy to the table with this post. Maybe a place where we can feel safe to put our hard feelings down for a little bit, and consider all feelings involved with your situation.

Trauma is a very complex thing. Sure, we were told and entrusted with information. That doesn’t mean that the trauma just went away for them. For a little while, sure it did. But it’s buried deep and has a profound affect on the victim. Your girlfriend. Your boyfriend. These folks are not evil people. They are very hurt individuals. They are human.

Labels aside, it’s trauma which is a very real thing.

[JNChell]

I understand that labeling our loved ones with something like BPD, NPD, PTSD, C-PTSD and anti social conditions are helpful for many of us to gain our footing and start to recognize what we went through personally. I would’ve never found this community if it weren’t for a label. BPD. It fit, at least in my way of thinking at that time. My son’s mother has NPD/BPD traits. The thing is, so do I. I’m clinically diagnosed with with C-PTSD. It’s an anxiety disorder that is very difficult to navigate. Medication doesn’t help. My head is too strong to give into it. The medication makes me feel worse actually.

I’m hoping to bring empathy to the table with this post. Maybe a place where we can feel safe to put our hard feelings down for a little bit, and consider all feelings involved with your situation.

Trauma is a very complex thing. Sure, we were told and entrusted with information. That doesn’t mean that the trauma just went away for them. For a little while, sure it did. But it’s buried deep and has a profound affect on the victim. Your girlfriend. Your boyfriend. These folks are not evil people. They are very hurt individuals. They are human.

Labels aside, it’s trauma which is a very real thing.

[HappyChappy]

I’m clinically diagnosed with with C-PTSD.

I’m hoping to bring empathy to the table with this post. Maybe a place where we can feel safe to put our hard feelings down for a little bit, and consider all feelings involved with your situation.

I have CPTSD and feel like I'm coming out of the woods after many years working at this. The great news is it is treatable, where as NPD and BPD are less so, so lucky us (irony). I'm probably 75% better and moving forward. So JNChell my hart goes out to you because I remember how dark I got, how helpless it felt, but I know you're strong and I know you'll improve its just a case of how quickly. The big difference for me came when I managed to remove as much stress as possible, mainly by selling my business. The NHS won't give you CBT if you're adjitated as it doesn't work. I also stopped reading the news and went for daily walks in a forest. But this forum and its wonderful mediators was also a life line - thank you BDPfamily.  

[JNChell]

HC, I understand your point on what is more easily treated. I’m trying to de-stress. I need space for sure. I feel like I’m at a very pivotal and important point in all of this. Everything is very acute, and one thing I’ve kept with me along the way is how survivors can give up when the emotions are very heightened and it feels like there isn’t an end to this. I’m in a rough patch, my friend. I feel like hell. I feel as helpless as I did as a kid. I just hope that this is the proverbial hump to get over, and finally start to put this behind me where it belongs.