Romantic Relationship on eggshells

[Papafroggie]

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 plus years. It is sometimes exhilarating but other times frustrating. Anytime a conflict comes up, it never gets resolved. There have been instances of impulsive infidelity and dishonesty that when confronted turned into blaming of me.  After doing some research on the topic, I observed a cycle of intense fear of abandonment (as in her saying she is a failure as a girlfriend) followed by a day of rage and a week and a half of emotional distance. Things are good right now but I'm afraid of when the other shoe may drop. Ive read 'Eggshells' and some other books. When she is in this world its like we are on different planets. I think she is an undiagnosed BPD and I'm afraid to talk to her about it bc it will cause a blow up.  I probably need to get out of the relationship. Not sure what to do

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[Bewildered123]

From everything I've read on this forum, and I've read A LOT