Daughter in which we believe has bpd.

[Dollymom]

Hi everyone. 
I hope to find that I’m not the only one feeling so helpless as hopeless.  I know we have hope in God.  Our  (my husband and I) have a strong faith and that what carries us through.  For the last 13 years our daughter has ruined nearly every holiday gathering and mine and my husband’s vacations by getting calls of her “emergencies “ in what do I do situations.  She’s forever in a bind, legal battle, relationship battle, financial problems etc. 
she bears no blame.   It is EVERYONE else’s fault and everyone else is crazy and needs counseling according to her.  She thinks she has it together. 
We just need to know there is help out there for WHEN she realizes she’s the one with the mental problems and need help. 

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Swimmy55]

Hi Dollymom,
 There is definitely help for your daughter if she so desires to seek it.  That's the key , though, it has to be up to her. 
There is also help for us a parents .  So glad you reached out to us, as this can be one form of much needed support.  As far as the BPD crapping all over the Holidays, that is unfortunately pretty normal stuff for them- what helps here is to lower our expectations.  Boundaries would help too, especially with the phone calls of crisis and help.  You do not have to be your daughter's victim.  Read more here on the forum, take a look around.  When you are signed in , you are also able to click onto the names here and can read their previous posts, get their backstories.   We welcome you here.