BPD sx that starts in childhood

[JD2028]

My daughter is only 14 but we've known there was something wrong for many years. We have has her in therapy for many years but a fat lot a good it's done.

Anyway, a user on another forum suggested that since she has been experiencing sx since she was a toddler, perhaps my daughter is ASD and not BPD. I had not considered it before but the signs and symptoms overlap in so so many ways. I brought this up to family members and they said, she's not like that! I said how many girls do you know with ASD? None of us knew of any! It's really bizarre. Boys are dx with asd 10x the rate of girls so maybe that could explain some difference?

Interesting though experiment but it turns out there's no better tx for ASD than BPD. Maybe though, if our kids were seen as having a biological problem as opposed to a parental problem, they would stop ________ing blaming us and start doing something to help us all? Just a though

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[normal person]

Hi
I have also wondered for a while if its not BPD, but ASD. But when my daughter turned 18, more and more BPD behaviours started to show. Before she was 18, we were more inclined to think ASD is more like it.
That's until she  turned 18 and admitted to cutting herself, overdosed, started to have intense favourite persons, shifting goalposts and in the end stopped talking to me altogether. Until then, I thought autism spectrum. In our case it's quiet BPD where all anger is turned inwards. Very hard to pick what the issue is.
She has since gone to another psychiatrist , who now tells her its complex PTSD, which is another lot of baloney. She hasn't had trauma or traumatic childhood, but because she sees it differently and tells psych that she is abused and misunderstood, they think its cPTSD as if she has been to war zone, refugee camp or sex trafficking victim.

[JD2028]

Well I wish you luck on your journey. It's a bumpy road.