Hi kells!
First, you're right about that the anger might be letting me know that something needs to change. That is such a complex situation and the anger might be a key factor there.
In the meantime, I'll start by focusing on improving my sleep routine...
I have little trouble falling asleep, but I'm not good at transitioning between activities and my wife has the same problem... procrastination?... Getting ready for bed is one such thing. It's hard to get a lasting routine but I'm now trying to focus on getting the kids ready for bed on time, that way there is enough time for us to relax before our bedtime.
Well this is most nights. The few nights a month when my wife simply disturbs my sleep is harder to change, and maybe not where my focus is needed the most.
I understand that fundamentally those aren't the core issues, but it's an approach worth considering -- chip away at the peripheral issues so that there's less on your plate, then work inwards towards the core issue. First regulate yourself (sleep, and parenting support), then you'll have more fuel in the tank for digging in to broader emotional management.
Exactly!
What do you think about starting there -- tackle one aspect of sleep improvement, and do one google search for a parenting hotline?
I'll try with the sleep improvement, and later if I feel that it isn't helping I'll contact someone, maybe not a hotline but something similar I have in mind.
Thanks kells, good to hear from you too.