bpd girlfriend ghpsting, less time together

[yaya2]

Hi, I am having a long distance relationship with a girl diagnosed with bpd, she used to go to theraphy but stopped. It was all good in the beggining , getting idolized, being together from morning to night, but we started having fights because I am a vulcanic person, and at some point she started splitting on me after 3 months into the relationship. Ghosting or less talk would happen before for some hours or a day/ or 2 , but the splitting episode she had was 3 weeks long, in which i got a message from her sometimes in 2 or  3 days out of 21. And I had enough, i was having my mental rly low , because I couldnt understand her behaviour, I couldve never ignore her more than some hours, and she did for that much time, i started thinking shes cheating, or she lost feelings, so i broke up with her because I started getting attention from another woman, which made me think i started to like her. She was out of the splitting episode when she realised i really am serious, and tried her best to keep me there, with promises that she will change, that she will get better, she will start taking pills and etc, but i was both blinded and mad at her so i acted rly cold towards her, said some things which hurt her. After 2-3 weeks i realised i cant replace her and I still love her, and tried to get back together at first she was rly hurt and , but after 2-3 weeks things started to get better and we started dating again. Its been 1 month since she takes the pills , and 1 month since we date, and now she is ghosting me again its the 5th day in a row and all she said was in the 4th day, im sorry i behave like this. I watched many videos to understand what bpd is and how it affects her, but sometimes it just feels like too much. She told me she feels depressed these days, but i dont really know why, because  if she takes pills it should be the other way around. Any advice which would help me understand her and maybe not trigger her into splitting on me would be rly nice. ( she said multiple times that she feels like the second choice and that makes her feel bad)

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