Not sure how to feel

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My uBPDh is back in his bad mode. It’s been about a week, he has had 2 episodes of almost coming out of it, but then right back to his mean mode!  Both of my kids had basketball tournaments this weekend, which as I have said many times automatically puts him in a bad mood. A lot has gone on, but one stupid thing keeps making me mad. We have a 3 car garage. But with so many kids, bikes etc take up one space. And currently a space is taken up by the hints my h wants to bring to his storage unit. He told me that he will park outside and I should park in the garage since I always have the kids. I come home last night, after basketball, and he was parked in the garage. So I parked behind him, not what I should have done, but you took my spot and it is obviously on purpose to control me and make me mad. When he sees he comes flying upstairs screaming at me and calling me a dumb, fat, ugly b@&$/, etc in fro t of the kids, going on and on. He then moved my car and parked it on the side of the road. Today, he continues to park in the garage and I have continued to park on the side of the road. To me this is just playing rude. We live in a nice neighborhood, but the wife and kids should always have safety first. I know I can’t say anything until he flips back, but when he does, what do I say?  I know it is just to hurt me and make me mad, so I am keeping my cool over it, but it is plain rude and not what the children should be taught. Thought??

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My uBPDh is back in his bad mode. It’s been about a week, he has had 2 episodes of almost coming out of it, but then right back to his mean mode!  Both of my kids had basketball tournaments this weekend, which as I have said many times automatically puts him in a bad mood. A lot has gone on, but one stupid thing keeps making me mad. We have a 3 car garage. But with so many kids, bikes etc take up one space. And currently a space is taken up by the hints my h wants to bring to his storage unit. He told me that he will park outside and I should park in the garage since I always have the kids. I come home last night, after basketball, and he was parked in the garage. So I parked behind him, not what I should have done, but you took my spot and it is obviously on purpose to control me and make me mad. When he sees he comes flying upstairs screaming at me and calling me a dumb, fat, ugly b@&$/, etc in fro t of the kids, going on and on. He then moved my car and parked it on the side of the road. Today, he continues to park in the garage and I have continued to park on the side of the road. To me this is just playing rude. We live in a nice neighborhood, but the wife and kids should always have safety first. I know I can’t say anything until he flips back, but when he does, what do I say?  I know it is just to hurt me and make me mad, so I am keeping my cool over it, but it is plain rude and not what the children should be taught. Thought??

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