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Wanda
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« on: April 04, 2013, 12:58:41 PM »

 

Well things here have been busy... . my husband with the BPD got a new job after 14 years with  with one company, decided it was best to move on

He found this company he is with now and feels good about it... . but he has BPD and a recovering alcoholic so his Alcoholic and BPD gets in his way, he has been on this job only four days and already over whelmed and had a bad day someone telling him what he did wrong well he is in training right now so he will make mistakes.  He is driving me crazy    ready to quit! i know though he won't quit due to  being through this aLREADY until he has another job backing him up.

but until he gets use to this job and feels comfortable it will be stressful around here.

He might not have ourburst alot but he is still BPD, and undiagnoised.  He works now closer to work, so he leaves later then before and this is a job where he slows down in the winter driving me crazy      all i can do is listen, but not be his  punching bag... .   Hope every one doing well.
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« Reply #1 on: April 04, 2013, 01:17:20 PM »

Hi Wanda, its always good to hear from you.  I'm sorry things are a little chaotic right now with his new job and all the anxiety that must go with it. 

Take good care of yourself as he works though his issues and returns to a better baseline. 
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« Reply #2 on: April 04, 2013, 10:37:22 PM »

Thanks... .

well an update he was told after four days he wouldn,t work out there... . I quess he over heard someone say this the day before,  my husband said he said it loud enough for him to say he wouldn't work out. my husband said he really didn't do anything wrong this guy just didn't like him and wanted his buddy in... .

so talk about a blow... . my husband of coarse is really down on himself, and feels like it was all his fault of coarse i just support him he is also an alcoholic, 25 years recoverd though wich helps.  and with BPD i have to watch for signs of DEpression sucide all that lucky for me he is high functioning and a go getting it won't take long for him to find a job... . He will be gone alot because staying home will drive him crazy... . lucky for me i work full time, i told him because we went through this before many years ago a little differnt this time around before no insurance , this time he is on mine, last time we had to money and this time due to me working full time, we might be ok... . hopefully    so i might be on here alot i know i will need support as he drives me crazy.!
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« Reply #3 on: April 05, 2013, 09:50:35 AM »

Hang in there Wanda.

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