To All of You... Parenting After it All

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

To All of You... .  Parenting After it All... .  I drop by to view and remind myself how very fortunate I am that along with all the crud that has been a part of my marriage and now divorce that I do not have the tremendous extra burden of doing it all and also having to protect your kids from all the pain and dangers you all have to lookout for and deal with!

I have no idea of how you do it!  I surely could not as it takes me to muster all of emotional strength to face the crude and keep moving on my new path each and every day.

So today rather than just jump in and browse and jump out... .  an acknowledgement that you are all the best of the best!

God only knows I could not even come close to do what each of you do!

I take my hat to all of you! God bless you all!

mrrlk

[NewWays]

To All of You... .  Parenting After it All... .  I drop by to view and remind myself how very fortunate I am that along with all the crud that has been a part of my marriage and now divorce that I do not have the tremendous extra burden of doing it all and also having to protect your kids from all the pain and dangers you all have to lookout for and deal with!

I have no idea of how you do it!  I surely could not as it takes me to muster all of emotional strength to face the crude and keep moving on my new path each and every day.

So today rather than just jump in and browse and jump out... .  an acknowledgement that you are all the best of the best!

God only knows I could not even come close to do what each of you do!

I take my hat to all of you! God bless you all!

mrrlk

[momtara]

Thanks!

Hey, just dealing with a BPD spouse has its own issues. 

[slimmiller]

Thank You!

It is good to hear that. I have three with mine, the youngest is 6, almost 7. That means another 11 years of some contact in some form or another... .  

She wants to be friends but friends do not rage at each other, friends dont lie or betray. Getting the kids to school in time, homework done... .  oh and activities are a solo act for me. NO help from her. She dont even know where they play soccer at. She showed up for the girls cheerleading ONCE. Shes too busy with her latest bf and school and 'work'.

So when one asks, 'should I have a child with my BPD' or will it get better after we get married and have children? It makes me shudder. I know not all are the same but my answer is good Lord NO. Parenting is a challange at times with a normal partner, let alone one that is stuck as a 3 year old on certain emotional levels.

Being partnered with a sexually mature (and 'active' in every sense of the word) female that has many attributes of a child, makes parenting a Hell to say the least.

I thank God for my children every day though

[NewWays]

slim miller... .  

I really wanted to have kids... .  but much like we all remember what we were and what we were doing on 9-11, I recall way to clearly where we were, what was going on the second before the split second atomic blast / and rage mushroom cloud... .  and you start to realize that you'll never ever be able to ever have kids due to your PWBPD wife... .  sad but true.

As I said in an earlier post you all are the top of the class!

mrrlk

[Free One]

Thanks for the encouragement. There are times when it is an extra struggle to heal AND help your kids heal. It's nice to hear supportive and kind words.