Appointment came through; so nervous

[KsMum]

My daughter's psychiatrist appointment came through today! I think that's very quick because she only went to see the GP last Thursday! Her initial assessment appointment is on 28th May. We're in the UK, does anyone on here know what might be involved? I'm very nervous for her, but she appears to be either hiding her reaction or is just ok about it.

I texted her to let her know she had post & did she want me to open it in case it was her appointment. She texted back "Yes please". I texted her back with the date, time, address & Dr's name & said that the letter says she can bring a friend or family member. I told her that I'd understand if she'd rather I didn't go, but that I'd be happy to take her if she needs me to. Her reply was "Okydoke. Thanks xxx".

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[BioAdoptMom3]

 

It's great that you got an appointment so quickly for her and even greater that she seems to be willing to go, and appreciative of the fact that you are willing to take her!  Please keep us updated!

[KsMum]

Thanks BioAdoptMom3. I'm clinging on to the hope that she's actually going to make the appointment & that she's not put off when she meets the psyche

[vivekananda]

Hi Ksmum,

I am sorry I missed your first post... .  It is exciting that your d has her appt so soon. I think it might be a good chance to catch up on some background reading before you get there. I am so pleased for you that she has said it's ok for you to be there. That has the potential to be so positive.

I can't tell you about UK specifically. There are UK people here (I'm in Aust). We are all though very experienced with the BPD in our lives.   The one thing we all have in common is that we understand what it feels like.

You haven't said much about your situation in your post here, so what I thought I could do it make some suggestions.

I think it would help you to do some catch up reading. This is the link to the National Clinical Guidelines for the Management of BPD (Aust), published just this month. It is based on the latest research. While it is not the UK guidelines (and yes, I do believe there are UK guidelines), it is up to date and easily accessible. You can download it as a pdf file and read it all.

National Clinical Guidelines for the Management of BPD (Aust)

Have you explored the site here and looked at the articles and information available? There is much to be learnt form the site here.

Our first rule here is to take care of ourselves. We are no use to anyone unless we are on top of things, so Ksmum, take care. Let us know how it is, and if you have any other questions, please feel free to ask.

cheers,

Vivek    

[ledzep68]

Hi KSmum, I am glad you have got an appointment so soon. I hope you get the help you need here in the UK. My sister has a son who I believe has BPD, but the pychatrist here are less likely to diagnose BPD. They give other diagnosis. Like adjustment disorder, ADHD or Bipolar. He is on medication, but she has been trying to get him some therapy like DBT, because even though he is on medication. Think he is on serequel. He still has impulsivity in sex, drugs plus theft. He also has rages, which the pcychatrist has witnessed and so now has prescribed him Diazapan on top of the serequel. But getting any therapy is hard. They do not seem to want to give him this, which I believe would help him tremendously. My own undiagnosed DS22 I believe has BPD. I did a test with him when he came out of jail for then third time and he had 8 out of nine of the traits for BPD. He said he would get help. But then changed and did not want to get any. Saying there was nothing wrong even though he had done the test and answered truthfully. I feel he is in denial at the moment because he is not ready to face it. He is maybe ashamed about having it or scared. I hope one day he will get the help he needs.

Ledzep

[KsMum]

I'm still not sure if her "okydoke" was in response to me sending her the appt details or in response to my offereing to go with her. If it's the latter & if the T tries not to diagnose, I'll be suggesting to D that she goes back to the GP & asks for a referral to the Maudsley Hospital, I've seen a good booklet from a section there that appear to do DBT, but it's with their CAMHS & she's 18 (they say 12-18) so I hope they'll consider seeing her. There's no way I'm going to accept anything that even comes close to "lets wait & see" as I've been through that with my son & him being Aspergers.

Thanks for the replies