Devastated and broken

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I have been trying to work on our relationship with some hope that my BPD wife of 33 years and I could somehow salvage our marriage. Never in my wildest dreams could I imagine some of the things she comes out with, her tongue is a savage weapon which cuts to the bone.

She has started staying out at night, and I just overheard a conversation about a man who she is apparently staying with. I am so hurt and confused that I cannot begin to explain my feelings at the moment.

I am so tired of trying and giving my all, and having it thrown back in my face. She is incredibly self centred, if things are not done her way all hell breaks loose. She is 55 and has taken to going out at night in incredibly short mini skirts and stilettos, unfortunately for me she looks extremely attractive in them and knows it, constantly rubbing my nose in the fact that she is frequently approached by men, for obvious reasons. I think I have reached the end for me, but I am having a hell of a lot of trouble leaving the relationship. Even though I know it is not going anywhere. I am on anti depressants and seeing a therapist but am still feeling incredibly low, and I can't see a future for me. I wish I could just turn these feelings off.

[em754]

I have been trying to work on our relationship with some hope that my BPD wife of 33 years and I could somehow salvage our marriage. Never in my wildest dreams could I imagine some of the things she comes out with, her tongue is a savage weapon which cuts to the bone.

She has started staying out at night, and I just overheard a conversation about a man who she is apparently staying with. I am so hurt and confused that I cannot begin to explain my feelings at the moment.

I am so tired of trying and giving my all, and having it thrown back in my face. She is incredibly self centred, if things are not done her way all hell breaks loose. She is 55 and has taken to going out at night in incredibly short mini skirts and stilettos, unfortunately for me she looks extremely attractive in them and knows it, constantly rubbing my nose in the fact that she is frequently approached by men, for obvious reasons. I think I have reached the end for me, but I am having a hell of a lot of trouble leaving the relationship. Even though I know it is not going anywhere. I am on anti depressants and seeing a therapist but am still feeling incredibly low, and I can't see a future for me. I wish I could just turn these feelings off.

[Surnia]

Hi em754

So sorry to hear all this! 

33 years marriage - a very long time. Which makes it not easier for you!

I read some of your prior posts. Some Bipolar bells are ringing... .

I am glad you are working with a T.

You are posting here on undecided. In my opinion it is very difficult to come to a decision feeling low.

Do you have something that can you give you some short relief? Do you have hobbies? Friends?

It may sound as a silly and not suitable question... . It is very important to have or learn good self care, to make us stronger.

I am not familiar with your living situation right now.

Do you see her daily?