Still Communicating with my Ex

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Wanted to provide y'all with an update:

I am still in communication with my ex girlfriend. She is in therapy and back to work after serious back surgery.

I am still dating the woman I have been seeing since January and am very happy.  My ex and I have been communicating via phone/text and I actually enjoy where we are right now.

A part of me doubts she is BPD but her dissasociating and rages tell me otherwise (not to mention cheating).

I will say I missed the banter between us. I want her to meet someone else. I know she thinks I will magically pick her over the person I am seeing but that is not happening. I truly am happier than I have been in over a year. Maybe this person is just supposed to be in my life for no other reason than as a friend.

I don't know.

I haven't forgotten the bad stuff.  Laying in a fetal position for weeks on end, not eating and showering. I won't ever forget those things, hence why I am not fully trusting her or her motives.

She just hasn't given me anything traditionally "her" to think otherwise.

Anyways, I wanted to update you all.  I could be making a horrible decision, I don't know. All I know is I feel more grounded having her dissapear a few months.

For those of you unsure, use this time wisely. Get stronger. I will say that helped me tremendously.


Pretty Woman

[Pretty Woman]

Wanted to provide y'all with an update:

I am still in communication with my ex girlfriend. She is in therapy and back to work after serious back surgery.

I am still dating the woman I have been seeing since January and am very happy.  My ex and I have been communicating via phone/text and I actually enjoy where we are right now.

A part of me doubts she is BPD but her dissasociating and rages tell me otherwise (not to mention cheating).

I will say I missed the banter between us. I want her to meet someone else. I know she thinks I will magically pick her over the person I am seeing but that is not happening. I truly am happier than I have been in over a year. Maybe this person is just supposed to be in my life for no other reason than as a friend.

I don't know.

I haven't forgotten the bad stuff.  Laying in a fetal position for weeks on end, not eating and showering. I won't ever forget those things, hence why I am not fully trusting her or her motives.

She just hasn't given me anything traditionally "her" to think otherwise.

Anyways, I wanted to update you all.  I could be making a horrible decision, I don't know. All I know is I feel more grounded having her dissapear a few months.

For those of you unsure, use this time wisely. Get stronger. I will say that helped me tremendously.


Pretty Woman

[sadinnc98]

Proceed with caution my dear! I hope things keep going well for you... you just know how these people can somehow worm themselves back into your life and wreak havoc all over again.  Not that it will happen here, but just be careful! 

[arn131arn]

PW, glad to see you have the closure u needed. Allot of us here would like to have that.

I hate to play devilS advocate, but how would it current f2f like u communicating with it ex. I say if u are happy as u have been in over a year, why be friends w someone who doesn't act like one.

Turk has some great threads about a friendship. They have helped me allot the last few days.

Be careful, PW. U have a big heart, don't give it away so freely.

, Arn

[Pretty Woman]

Thank you to both!

I am glad you all are looking out for me. I am treading with caution.

The lesbian community is super small and I plan events so everyone knows me. I am trying to keep everything light, happy and non-dramatic (which is hard to do with women in general)!

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I am gauging this with extreme awareness. My current gf knows I have spoken to her. I am being honest.

[Waifed]

You've come a long way Pretty Woman!  Tread gently.  I am proud of you!

[RecycledNoMore]

I know youve already heard this but...

Please be careful... .

Remember this is the woman who spit in your face.

Youve come along way Earth Angel/Pretty Woman!