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Perdita
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« on: May 08, 2014, 05:04:49 AM »

I think my BPbf is about to get a dog for the purpose of keeping control over me.  He knows I have a major soft spot for dogs.  He also knows full well that I will end up doing most of the work should he get one.  He is not ready to take care of any other living thing.  I can already see how this will play out.  He has even decided on a name ... . the name of my beloved dog that past away years ago!  Red flag/bad  (click to insert in post) He knows I will become attached to the dog.  Even talking about 2 breeds that he knows I love (one same as my dog was).

I sense manipulation in this.  Have any of you experienced something along the same lines?
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« Reply #1 on: May 08, 2014, 05:12:49 AM »

Oooh,yes. Yes yes yes.

My last BPD exgf. I asked her to move out.

(our relationship 4 years until I had enough which is,why its a big

Deal I left this last one in 6 months)

We kept trying to male it work... When I started dating other ppl

She bought me a mini schnauzer (lilly poo still have her and love her to death

But a living creature to take care of is STILL a burden!)

She looks exactly like my childhood dog I was obsessed w who got hit

By a car when I was 18 she knew I couldnt say no bc of that.

Even the new girl I was semi seeing said "very smart on her part

Permanent attachment"

But it didnt turn out to be... I mean at first it felt that way.

That ex has moved to fl w my replacement 6 months later.

None the less... They will not stop at any kind of manipulation!

They get low w it! No shame as long as some false sense of

Security is there
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« Reply #2 on: May 08, 2014, 07:40:27 AM »

Thanks for your input, HBR.  Smiling (click to insert in post)

Gosh, our stories are pretty similar, aren't they?    I told mine a month ago that I will see other guys from now on if I want since he pulled the whole "I don't want a relationship thing" (still see each other all the time, btw) and thinks it's just fine for him to go out alone with his pedestal girl.  He must be worried although not prepared to change his ways!  So he seems to now be following the same pattern then as your ex.  You still have the dog and therefore, even though you left, she has left something of herself with you to love.  Just weird how their minds work!  My goodness... .
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