Yes, you are lawyer shopping, and under the circumstances, better late than never. :)o it quickly and well!
You need an attorney who has experience with cases like this. Ask for examples - she won't give you her clients' names, but she should be able to tell you "war stories" of similar cases she has handled, and what worked and didn't work - what she learned from them.
Most attorneys don't know how to handle cases like this. Some might claim they do but they don't. Make sure you choose someone who won't be learning at your cost.
Also, I would strongly suggest "Splitting" by William A. Eddy - both for you and for your attorney. A very readable guide to going through a divorce from someone who has BPD or NPD (narcissistic personality disorder). Cases like this take a different approach. You can also read a lot on Eddy's web site,
www.HighConflictInstitute.com.
Some strategies to consider - they helped me:
* Find out about Custody Evaluators - how that process works where you live. Also consider asking the court to appoint a Guardian Ad Litem (GAL) or child advocate for D11.
* Consider filing a motion to have both parents take objective psych evals, like the MMPI-2. Get the important medical information out in the open.
* Consider asking for depositions, so your attorney can question the other party under oath before the trial. This is very helpful if the other party is not telling the truth.
