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Author Topic: To validate or give it time?  (Read 407 times)
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« on: October 27, 2014, 01:09:57 AM »

I kinda dropped a bomb a few days back on my BPDex. Telling her after she admitted to feeling empty and worthless, torn up inside and weighed down inside the truth. Of needing self love and happiness and was kinda... no wait TOTALLY INVALIDATING. BAD IDEA. Idk why i tried to rationalize with her i just was frustrated in the moment and didnt think i guess.(Sometimes when she acts so normal i forget shes BPD. Laugh out loud (click to insert in post) ) Well now im trying to do damage control. It is quite obvious from her social media that shes upset at me or at least sad/possibly feeling rejected? Idk regardless its not good. And its been 4 days and every 4 days its her pattern for the last month to text me. I supposse im black again from my current view of her emotions. I dont want her back atm but maybe i will later? Shes single and its tempting but Im trying to take it all with a slow pace. all i know is i want to focus on myself for now in therapy and i cant do that whilst in a relationship with her. Its just that other than my mess up shes been pretty pleasant and i enjoy her texts. So yea as my title spells out which do you think would be a better option atm? Note: Both have worked in the past with positive results.

I also wrote out a validation text. Id love feedback.

"I understand if you are still upset at me because of what i responded to the last text you sent. That must have made you feel like i was being hurtful. I see now that i need to be more mindful of my words so you dont feel like that. Especially when youre going through alot emotionally. Just know im here if you need to talk in a positive and supportive way from now on."
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« Reply #1 on: October 27, 2014, 11:41:21 AM »

 

Can you talk me through the decision to text this... .vice tell her this in person?
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