Need help here Why she made that move ?

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

After 4 months B/U 5 years R/S  , I finally had it with her games , she loves me , thank god for me when I helped her once .

5 days ago I wanted to be honest with like always I told her I am now talking to a girl and I am not rushing at all just in case have an changes in your situation (first time serious break up in 5 years )

[guy4caligirl]

After 4 months B/U 5 years R/S  , I finally had it with her games , she loves me , thank god for me when I helped her once .

5 days ago I wanted to be honest with like always I told her I am now talking to a girl and I am not rushing at all just in case have an changes in your situation (first time serious break up in 5 years )

[Deeno02]

Why? Leave it be man... .

[DangIthurts]

Why? Leave it be man... .

Yeah really... If you've been no contact, chances are she found a new source but do what you gotta do bud.

I tried a 2-3 more nice messages post break up and a week of exhaustive effort to see her... But at least in my case once you've been rendered useless you are NOTHING but a memory.

And actually the few times I made contact post Official break up, made it worse because of her cold indifference.

[BrokenFamily]

I have to agree with Deeno, leave it be. I know it's difficult, it's like an unhealthy addiction. Much like addiction you are always chasing that first high which never returns when you are recycled anyway. I hold on to hope with my ex (and I probably shouldn't) because we have a child together and I still believe despite our past we can make it work get therapy and be the loving family we once were. That being said I realize it will be impossible without therapy and even then may not last. If being hurt, used as a doormat, verbally abused and having a one sided relationship is what you are looking for there are plenty of other BPD girls out there for you. There is no need to be hung up on this particular one.

[guy4caligirl]

I have to agree with Deeno, leave it be. I know it's difficult, it's like an unhealthy addiction. Much like addiction you are always chasing that first high which never returns when you are recycled anyway. I hold on to hope with my ex (and I probably shouldn't) because we have a child together and I still believe despite our past we can make it work get therapy and be the loving family we once were. That being said I realize it will be impossible without therapy and even then may not last. If being hurt, used as a doormat, verbally abused and having a one sided relationship is what you are looking for there are plenty of other BPD girls out there for you. There is no need to be hung up on this particular one.

No sir Thank you .