Do they pop up, if they think you forgot about them?

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Example: my relationship ended last year, she asked for me not to contact her ever again, I abided.  First few months I thought, maybe I would hear from her, nothing, so I figured, it's really over and I would never hear from her again, it was painful, but I accepted it.  A week before xmas, which was like 7 months later, she called out the blue, I was in shock, we chatted for a minute, she told me she missed me, it was like old times.  Then at Xmas and New year's, I wished her a merry xmas, and happy new year through a text, just like I would send everyone else, nothing.  I just shook my head, and said I'll never send her anything else.  I thought she would say you too, as far as a response.  I figure most here, has had similiar situations, meaning when I have got past her, not thinking about her, she comes back into my life, to make sure I don't forget her, and then start the process all over again.  If I reached out to an ex after 7 months of NC, a week before the holidays, we have a pleasant conversation, I tell them how much I miss them, and then in kind on the holidays, they reach out to me, and I ignore them, what can I do but laugh!

[eclectic]

Example: my relationship ended last year, she asked for me not to contact her ever again, I abided.  First few months I thought, maybe I would hear from her, nothing, so I figured, it's really over and I would never hear from her again, it was painful, but I accepted it.  A week before xmas, which was like 7 months later, she called out the blue, I was in shock, we chatted for a minute, she told me she missed me, it was like old times.  Then at Xmas and New year's, I wished her a merry xmas, and happy new year through a text, just like I would send everyone else, nothing.  I just shook my head, and said I'll never send her anything else.  I thought she would say you too, as far as a response.  I figure most here, has had similiar situations, meaning when I have got past her, not thinking about her, she comes back into my life, to make sure I don't forget her, and then start the process all over again.  If I reached out to an ex after 7 months of NC, a week before the holidays, we have a pleasant conversation, I tell them how much I miss them, and then in kind on the holidays, they reach out to me, and I ignore them, what can I do but laugh!

[NonAverageJoe]

I miss you. = I need you to miss me

[Infern0]

They do pop up periodically yes.

If you had wanted her back you should have replied to "I miss you" with something non comittal like "hi how you been"

Bpd is weird