Basketball tickets/Mutual friends, how to keep, what to do?

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Okay. I'm leaving my BPD wife.

We have a bunch of mutual friends who are mostly guys (she generally has trouble being friends with other women). Myself and 3 friends (who are also friends of hers) bought basketball tickets to the NCAA mens basketball tournament in March. I'm going. One of the other guys who bought tickets is her best friend from childhood. (yes, her best friend is a guy, red flag #286) So anyway, this guy is really a good person and i value the friendship. I don't want him to miss out on the basketball games and I would genuinely like to see him and maintain the friendship.

What do i say to him? What do i do? I haven't contacted him in 5-6 weeks since my BPD wife and I separated.

[cehlers55]

Okay. I'm leaving my BPD wife.

We have a bunch of mutual friends who are mostly guys (she generally has trouble being friends with other women). Myself and 3 friends (who are also friends of hers) bought basketball tickets to the NCAA mens basketball tournament in March. I'm going. One of the other guys who bought tickets is her best friend from childhood. (yes, her best friend is a guy, red flag #286) So anyway, this guy is really a good person and i value the friendship. I don't want him to miss out on the basketball games and I would genuinely like to see him and maintain the friendship.

What do i say to him? What do i do? I haven't contacted him in 5-6 weeks since my BPD wife and I separated.

[Rise]

Just ask him if he still wants to go. If he doesn't, or thinks this will compromise his friendship with your ex, then he'll tell you.