BPD Ex Quotes That Still Haunt Me

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Has I replay events in my head like a broken record, I remember certain things my ex BPD would say often that always made me shake my head. Some things were very disturbing to me early on and after making a list of a few that have stuck with me and learning about BPD they fit. It's hard to believe what you put up with while your under their spell. Maybe some of these quotes you have heard from your ex, and maybe you have some that replay in your head? I never really understood the acting out, the Jeckle and Hyde, and the constant need for attention on any level, but it's all coming together for me. I've been in my bomb shelter long enough and really need to put this behind me.

"I told you I need to hear I love you all the time"

"I hate being alone"

"I don't stay single long"

"Give me a Margarita and a handful of Xanax"

"He's worth more to me dead than alive"

"When I'm done I'm done"

"I'm not changing for you or anyone else"

"Why do I need to tell you, I don't ask what your doing"

"I'm always right"

"I don't sleep"

"I always say what's on my mind it's part of my charm"

"I can't apologize for wanting it all"

"What man doesn't want to look at my boobs"

"I'm use to getting my way... always"

Just reading this list gives me the chills, what was I thinking LOL!

[borderpatrol]

Has I replay events in my head like a broken record, I remember certain things my ex BPD would say often that always made me shake my head. Some things were very disturbing to me early on and after making a list of a few that have stuck with me and learning about BPD they fit. It's hard to believe what you put up with while your under their spell. Maybe some of these quotes you have heard from your ex, and maybe you have some that replay in your head? I never really understood the acting out, the Jeckle and Hyde, and the constant need for attention on any level, but it's all coming together for me. I've been in my bomb shelter long enough and really need to put this behind me.

"I told you I need to hear I love you all the time"

"I hate being alone"

"I don't stay single long"

"Give me a Margarita and a handful of Xanax"

"He's worth more to me dead than alive"

"When I'm done I'm done"

"I'm not changing for you or anyone else"

"Why do I need to tell you, I don't ask what your doing"

"I'm always right"

"I don't sleep"

"I always say what's on my mind it's part of my charm"

"I can't apologize for wanting it all"

"What man doesn't want to look at my boobs"

"I'm use to getting my way... always"

Just reading this list gives me the chills, what was I thinking LOL!

[ScotisGone74]

One that I distinctly remember before the implosion: "  if you dont do _______ you are going to lose me.  "         she only said it once or twice and the fill in the blank on the last one was "get me pregnant"   

[borderpatrol]

One that I distinctly remember before the implosion: "  if you dont do _______ you are going to lose me.  "         she only said it once or twice and the fill in the blank on the last one was "get me pregnant"   

It's a scary game they play.

[butterfly 27]

Hello 

Definitely a scary game they play, then you also have to know how to play   , they dominate you with manipulations, lies and "emotional games." At the same time they need people they love, they push aside the same. They are very emotionally immature, are impatient, your rewards should always be immediate, not tolerate frustration and tend to put the blame on others always... .

[borderpatrol]

Hello 

Definitely a scary game they play, then you also have to know how to play   , they dominate you with manipulations, lies and "emotional games." At the same time they need people they love, they push aside the same. They are very emotionally immature, are impatient, your rewards should always be immediate, not tolerate frustration and tend to put the blame on others always... .

Hello and thanks, I did play for a while, but wasn't happy with the levels I was forced to stoop to. At the end it was more like junior high and I took a step back. Still hurts in the end and I hope I can learn and grow from it.

[clydegriffith]

After one of the 4 times she had me arrested, she expected me to be thankful that her lies to the police weren't more serious. She said "maybe next time i'll tell them you tried to pull a knife on me". That was very frightening and she was 100% capable of doing that.

[downwhim]

The games they play are pathetic. I too feel holed up. I want to overcome this so badly. He took a piece of me, manipulated and dominated me and laughed in the end with his arms folded, replacement in tow. I will never forget his look. Hateful, evil and self serving.

"When I'm done I'm done"

"I'm not changing for you or anyone else"

I heard these many times too. Also... .

I am who I am.

I am no longer staying at your place, if you want to be with ME, you come to my house.

It's my tv. I pick the stations. If you want to watch something else go into my daughters room. (tv super old and bad picture).

Turn your phone off!

My kids are my kids.

I am sick of YOUR friends.

You and all your friends.

No, I am not eating that!

[Deeno02]

You better treat me special or lose me... .hate that damn word "special". Every time I got the your a bad boyfriend come to Jesus meeting, I would roll up into a ball like an Armadillo.

[borderpatrol]

After one of the 4 times she had me arrested, she expected me to be thankful that her lies to the police weren't more serious. She said "maybe next time i'll tell them you tried to pull a knife on me". That was very frightening and she was 100% capable of doing that.

Wow Clyde that's one you need to stay far away from, scary business.

[borderpatrol]

The games they play are pathetic. I too feel holed up. I want to overcome this so badly. He took a piece of me, manipulated and dominated me and laughed in the end with his arms folded, replacement in tow. I will never forget his look. Hateful, evil and self serving.

"When I'm done I'm done"

"I'm not changing for you or anyone else"

I heard these many times too. Also... .

I am who I am.

I am no longer staying at your place, if you want to be with ME, you come to my house.

It's my tv. I pick the stations. If you want to watch something else go into my daughters room. (tv super old and bad picture).

Turn your phone off!

My kids are my kids.

I am sick of YOUR friends.

You and all your friends.

No, I am not eating that!

Stay Strong downwhim, we can't let the ghost of borderline past eat at us!

[borderpatrol]

You better treat me special or lose me... .hate that damn word "special". Every time I got the your a bad boyfriend come to Jesus meeting, I would roll up into a ball like an Armadillo.

I hear you Deeno, their special all right... .like a pimple on your behind!

[nowwhatz]

After countless recycles all the quotes seem to blend together and it is harder for me to remember them. Maybe that is a good thing. Definitely my passion for her has slowly but steadily decreased over the 4 years so.

2013 on Christmas day one of the emails I received said " te quiero hasta el infinito... ."

But then this email arrived at the end of the day after other emails including one where she asked me to send money to her (she was in Mexico visiting her family), so I probably didn't take that quote as seriously and therefore not too haunted by it.

As time has gone by I am less haunted by the I love you type quotes, but I pissed off at her because of some things she said but mostly by her actions.

Maybe that is progress.