So its been almost 2 years...

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

... .since me and my ex BPD girlfriend split up. Can I expect her to try and come back at some point or am I safe?

[strikeforce]

... .since me and my ex BPD girlfriend split up. Can I expect her to try and come back at some point or am I safe?

[disillusionedandsore]

Mine showed up after ten years no joke! Appeared to be everything I ever wanted in a partner... .same interests/values etc Knowing nothing about BPD I assumed he had matured,  gotten old gracefully... .Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha... .What a dupe!

[confusedinWI]

... .since me and my ex BPD girlfriend split up. Can I expect her to try and come back at some point or am I safe?

Interesting question, but I would answer your question with this... .what do you want to happen? Ultimately the choice is hers. If she comes back or not do you want her back?

If you don't want her back then it really doesn't matter if she attempts to or not.

Also, remember (and I'm trying to understand this too) that if she comes back it is not really about you it is about her. Fulfilling HER void, HER needs, not yours (or ours for that matter).

Hope this helps.

[lipstick]

... .since me and my ex BPD girlfriend split up. Can I expect her to try and come back at some point or am I safe?

Hi strikeforce,

Honestly? Who can say? It's been 2.5 years since I was dumped by my BPDex. I've received the Silent Treatment ever since. At the end of February (this year), I discovered he's been watching my Facebook videos on a daily basis. Confirmed by a mutual friend. It's still going on. Every day. Morning and night. Does he contact me? Nope.

When I first discovered what he was doing - I was actually kind of excited / surprised. I thought I was totally forgotten. Then I was sad for him. He's married and tells the world how wonderful his life is - yet he's watching my dumb videos every day? How wonderful can that life be if he's still thinking about me? Now that the FB stuff has been going on for over three months - it irritates me. I'm sick of his behaviors. Sick of him being too chicken-$hit to contact me and talk like adults.

So at this point - what do you want? Would you welcome contact? And no - I don't think we're ever truly "safe" from our exes trying to contact us. No matter how much time has gone by.