Bumped into ex and his girlfriend

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Well well well ! Just went out to get a little night tipple and bumped into the ex and his girlfriend I was looking a bit ragged and not part of the plan at all. They  were laughing and I thought they were laughing at me and I asked them if they were. They said no they were laughing at the the man with a box on his head and there was indeed a man with a box on his head. I remembered that there was car stuff he wanted me to hold on to til October when he said that he was going to send an envelope for me to post the stuff to him. So I called out to him to get it now ! I signed and asked how his daughter was. Last time we had contact he said she was ill. He said she had lupus , they think her womb is growing the wrong way and that she might not be able to have babies.I said I was sorry to hear that ! When he left I even said to wish his girlfriend well.I couldn't help myself when he left I sent him a text saying sorry to about his daughter and maybe he should have swore on her life when it was a lie. I really couldn't help myself ! I don't feel melancholy and think how I miss him but I'm gutted they both saw me looking a bit ragged popping out to the shop ! Was I wrong about texting him about swearing on his daughters life

[Mayjar68]

Well well well ! Just went out to get a little night tipple and bumped into the ex and his girlfriend I was looking a bit ragged and not part of the plan at all. They  were laughing and I thought they were laughing at me and I asked them if they were. They said no they were laughing at the the man with a box on his head and there was indeed a man with a box on his head. I remembered that there was car stuff he wanted me to hold on to til October when he said that he was going to send an envelope for me to post the stuff to him. So I called out to him to get it now ! I signed and asked how his daughter was. Last time we had contact he said she was ill. He said she had lupus , they think her womb is growing the wrong way and that she might not be able to have babies.I said I was sorry to hear that ! When he left I even said to wish his girlfriend well.I couldn't help myself when he left I sent him a text saying sorry to about his daughter and maybe he should have swore on her life when it was a lie. I really couldn't help myself ! I don't feel melancholy and think how I miss him but I'm gutted they both saw me looking a bit ragged popping out to the shop ! Was I wrong about texting him about swearing on his daughters life

[UserName69]

You really need to move on. There is no reason why to miss him or ask about his daughter. They're all history. Move on. Don't hurt yourself over these kind of things. Even when he was having fun with his new girlfriend one day he's going to do the same to her. Moving on is the only thing you can do.

[blissful_camper]

Was I wrong about texting him about swearing on his daughters life

What were your intentions?  What were you hoping to achieve from texting him?  I'm wondering where that could take you if that were the focus in place of determining a right or wrong action.  How did you feel bumping into them? 

[Circle]

I don't understand what you mean by this... ."couldn't help myself when he left I sent him a text saying sorry to about his daughter and maybe he should have swore on her life when it was a lie."

I'm just not picking up on the phrasing. If you could clarify, I would appreciate it.

[Mayjar68]

Just needed to clarify some things. I was saying that I did not feel melancholy. I did not feel I missed him. He had his car documents that he left at my house and even though his new girlfriend lives a minute away from me ( I really mean a minute !) he wouldn't come and get them. So when I bumped into him it seemed right to sort it out there and then and be done with it. When we were together he swore on his daughters life that he wasn't seeing  the woman ( I caught them in the act she was giving him a blowjob outside her house a year ago ) anymore and hadn't seen her about since. So I thought even though it's horrible that this had happened to his daughter. That karma had caught up with him and I told him so !

[Mayjar68]

My intentions were to be polite and his daughters were part of my life for 6 years and I knew that she was ill. I felt it was natural to ask about her health. I didn't think that she had a serious illness. It was to kill time while I had to sign the documents and hand them over. I had asked him plenty of times to come and get them. He wouldn't !