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I think it started Valentine's Day when I realized the cats and I have more intimacy than I do with her.
Since then, I've taken off the wedding ring (told her it was interfering when I exercise), and I don't attend church with her on a regular basis any longer. I'm happy when she goes to bed before I do.
And after two straight evenings of her unloading on me, and reading some of the lessons, I need to work on a plan for leaving. The plan up to this date is to leave in 2018, after the youngest graduates. A voice in the back of my head says I should prepare for leaving earlier.
Thanks for letting me share. This is painful.
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These relationships are quite painful. Kudos to you for taking steps to remove yourself, however. Do you think your wife would be open to counseling?
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Hi Beach_Babe,
I'm sorry to hear your pain. I totally understand it.
I also have taken off my birthday diamond necklace from BPDbf. It just felt right to me to do so.
You mention a plan of leaving, but then when you mention the word prepare, I sense from you may be giving your power to her to decide?
What stops you now? Children are resilient if they have two loving parents, so why are you staying?
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Chicken
Sorry to hear your tale of woe.
Do you think that she's really getting worse, or is it just a case that you're worn out by the cumulative effect of living with a pwBPD for so many years? These relationships can be very one-sided, and even the most loving, patient person is bound to run out of gas at some point!
Cheers
Fanny
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