UPDATE: Sometimes, they hand you a key to a better life...

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

  Hi Guys:

I come in now and again to lurk but feel less and less inclined to do so.  I can say FINALLY after two years of grieving and 18 months of solid depression, I am over it and him and have moved on.

For those of you that remember, he called off our wedding two days before we were to marry.  We were actually both leaving work and on our way to walk through the venue with the photographer one last time when he sent me the text that shook my world, "maybe we should cancel it". 

The break up, him moving out, the trying to work through it, the lies and cheating coming to light, the Bipolar diagnosis (him) and eventually we split again and he ended up with an Ex Penthouse Pet, WWE wrestler and fetish model... .who by the way, he is still with today.  Their drama filled union being detailed in her public blog for all to read, fists through walls, crying, storming out, split up back together and him ghosting her for days... ah, sounds familiar.

It was such a damn unbelieveable made for TV drama, some of my friends still stalk her blog to see what hell they are putting each other through.  I don't care anymore... .I see it for what it is, what it was... .a show... FICTION at that.

I started doing open mic comedy locally, most of it about him and our split and him and this girl.  It was a hit.  I kept getting asked to more stuff.  Then, I was paid to open for a headliner, needed to be clean and family friendly. So, I had write new material... .NOT ABOUT HIM.  I did, and performed to over 400+ people that night.

That was in the Spring.  Now, I am opening my own comedy club on July 24th (yep... I am Emcee and Host.).  I was approached by a local business and asked if they built it would I run it... finally, getting paid regularly.

The comedy has spurred to me develop a program I call the Laughter Project - tapping into your inner funny.  I will be taking it to Hospice Houses, hospitals, assisted living facilities and caregiver support groups, teaching people to tap their inner funny in times or tragedy.  I have been asked to unveil the project at a Local Caregiver Symposium as the featured speaker.

And the funniest gig of all.  Headliner for a fundraising comedy show for the National Association of Mental Illness.  Funny, I think after this experience, I know a little something about that!

Life is good again.  I went off the St. Johns Wort and don't ruminate or really think of him much at all.

And the best part, I am in a relationship with an amazing guy who like me, wants a slow and NORMAL dating relationship.

I say all of this because when I look back and see where I was, I never, EVER  expected I would be here.  I thought I would never get over it and him.  But I did, and to be honest, I can thank him for the experience, as I would NEVER be doing what I am if I had not experienced this painful relationship.

Push through... .carry on.  One day you WILL wake up realize you are better off than you were before.  And wiser for the wear!  Good luck and hugs to you all... .

Siren

[sirensong65]

  Hi Guys:

I come in now and again to lurk but feel less and less inclined to do so.  I can say FINALLY after two years of grieving and 18 months of solid depression, I am over it and him and have moved on.

For those of you that remember, he called off our wedding two days before we were to marry.  We were actually both leaving work and on our way to walk through the venue with the photographer one last time when he sent me the text that shook my world, "maybe we should cancel it". 

The break up, him moving out, the trying to work through it, the lies and cheating coming to light, the Bipolar diagnosis (him) and eventually we split again and he ended up with an Ex Penthouse Pet, WWE wrestler and fetish model... .who by the way, he is still with today.  Their drama filled union being detailed in her public blog for all to read, fists through walls, crying, storming out, split up back together and him ghosting her for days... ah, sounds familiar.

It was such a damn unbelieveable made for TV drama, some of my friends still stalk her blog to see what hell they are putting each other through.  I don't care anymore... .I see it for what it is, what it was... .a show... FICTION at that.

I started doing open mic comedy locally, most of it about him and our split and him and this girl.  It was a hit.  I kept getting asked to more stuff.  Then, I was paid to open for a headliner, needed to be clean and family friendly. So, I had write new material... .NOT ABOUT HIM.  I did, and performed to over 400+ people that night.

That was in the Spring.  Now, I am opening my own comedy club on July 24th (yep... I am Emcee and Host.).  I was approached by a local business and asked if they built it would I run it... finally, getting paid regularly.

The comedy has spurred to me develop a program I call the Laughter Project - tapping into your inner funny.  I will be taking it to Hospice Houses, hospitals, assisted living facilities and caregiver support groups, teaching people to tap their inner funny in times or tragedy.  I have been asked to unveil the project at a Local Caregiver Symposium as the featured speaker.

And the funniest gig of all.  Headliner for a fundraising comedy show for the National Association of Mental Illness.  Funny, I think after this experience, I know a little something about that!

Life is good again.  I went off the St. Johns Wort and don't ruminate or really think of him much at all.

And the best part, I am in a relationship with an amazing guy who like me, wants a slow and NORMAL dating relationship.

I say all of this because when I look back and see where I was, I never, EVER  expected I would be here.  I thought I would never get over it and him.  But I did, and to be honest, I can thank him for the experience, as I would NEVER be doing what I am if I had not experienced this painful relationship.

Push through... .carry on.  One day you WILL wake up realize you are better off than you were before.  And wiser for the wear!  Good luck and hugs to you all... .

Siren

[ReclaimingMyLife]

You freaking rock, Siren!    Love your post.  Keep up the kick-as$ work!

A W E S O M E.

[ppb2la]

Thanks, Siren for the encouraging post. I am three days NC and counting.

Good to know it gets better.

ppb2la

[Daisy 4Me]

Siren,

I remember you from a couple of years back when I was on here more. Thank you for sharing your experience. That is one of the most inspiring posts I've read here about moving on to a better life. Good for you, and good luck to you in continuing to create such an awesome life!  

Daisy