BPD girlfriend ruining my life

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Hi all

I have been dating a BPD for a year and half and 2 days ago we split up ... .this girl has stolen from me ... .nicked my phone and impersonated me chatting with girls ... .some work friends ... .trying g to get them to spill the beans over relationships, I haven't had. Told friends I have hit her and am abusive ... .posted lies about me on a website I run ... .threatened me ... .and constantly gets found out chatting with other men ... .even caught her having sex with one possibly two ... .probably more than that ! How do I escape this madness ? Probably given me an std ... .and I always seem to go back ? Why?

[Wakeupjester]

Hi all

I have been dating a BPD for a year and half and 2 days ago we split up ... .this girl has stolen from me ... .nicked my phone and impersonated me chatting with girls ... .some work friends ... .trying g to get them to spill the beans over relationships, I haven't had. Told friends I have hit her and am abusive ... .posted lies about me on a website I run ... .threatened me ... .and constantly gets found out chatting with other men ... .even caught her having sex with one possibly two ... .probably more than that ! How do I escape this madness ? Probably given me an std ... .and I always seem to go back ? Why?

[Turkish]

Hi Wakeupjester,

That's certainly a lot of dramatic behavior from her. Are you safe now? Based upon the past, do you think you will go back? How are you in contact now?

Many members here go back. I did it once, after my Ex broke up with me, and then pulled, "if you loved me, you'd fight for me!" 

Perhaps this can help you understand the break-up/make-up dynamic:

US: "Relationship Recycling" - What is it?

T

[Lucky Jim]

Hey wakeupjester, Welcome!  The behavior you describe is pretty typical for a pwBPD.  As Turkish notes, it's all drama.  The question is: are you ready to get off the roller coaster?  Only you know the answer.  Many of us (including me) have participated in numerous recycles.  Usually, we Nons have a propensity for serving as a caretaker for the pwBPD, which is an integral part of the r/s.  Does this sound familiar?

LuckyJim