Afraid Of Them

[Kelli Cornett]

How typical. As soon as my ex get back home he texts me begging me to come over and sleep with him.

After he went on the whole ___ing week about how he doesn't ever wanna see me again blocking me on every social media site and app.


I told him " no i'm afraid of you " which is the total truth! Last time I was there he tried to kick me out of his house 3 times at 12 at night and threatened to leave me there and go to a bar.


Than precedes to tell me I have nothing to be afraid of



So I'm not doing it. Annoyingly part of me feels guilty (co dependent part) but I have to protect myself.


Simply told him if he didn't act like how he did I would of. But he scared me off now.


I'm sure it's hard for him since he's never heard me say " No " to him before.


I rather feel safe tho.

[Climbmountains91]

I'm sorry to hear that happened to you and all I can say what a total ASS!  . I'm glad your keeping yourself safe, good for you. Stick to those boundaries.

I strangely feel safe with my BPDEX I know he wouldn't hurt me physically or anything, like the gig I'm stupidly going to tomorrow with him and I have anxiety that the tragic thing that happened in France will happen at the gig I'm going to I know, stupid, but I know if his around I'm safe, I cant explain it. I don't know if because of his build or a mental thing.  Even though he has 0% empathy, twice I fainted when pregnant with our daughter but he thought I was attention seeking or whatever.

But I am afraid to be around him mentally, his words are weapons.

[Kelli Cornett]

I'm sorry to hear that happened to you and all I can say what a total ASS!  . I'm glad your keeping yourself safe, good for you. Stick to those boundaries.

I strangely feel safe with my BPDEX I know he wouldn't hurt me physically or anything, like the gig I'm stupidly going to tomorrow with him and I have anxiety that the tragic thing that happened in France will happen at the gig I'm going to I know, stupid, but I know if his around I'm safe, I cant explain it. I don't know if because of his build or a mental thing.   Even though he has 0% empathy, twice I fainted when pregnant with our daughter but he thought I was attention seeking or whatever.

But I am afraid to be around him mentally, his words are weapons.

Yea he is def more of an NPD than BPD. Though he has traits.


Hmm that'll be interesting to see how that goes! I'd be nervous too. I once went to a gig with him and felt unsafe. Lucky one of his female friends came and I just hung out with her the whole time and than it was actually okay That's good you feel safe around him. I hope to feel that way about someone.

Are you guys friends? Or will be happening to be at the same place at the same time?

[Climbmountains91]

I'm sorry to hear that happened to you and all I can say what a total ASS!  . I'm glad your keeping yourself safe, good for you. Stick to those boundaries.

I strangely feel safe with my BPDEX I know he wouldn't hurt me physically or anything, like the gig I'm stupidly going to tomorrow with him and I have anxiety that the tragic thing that happened in France will happen at the gig I'm going to I know, stupid, but I know if his around I'm safe, I cant explain it. I don't know if because of his build or a mental thing.   Even though he has 0% empathy, twice I fainted when pregnant with our daughter but he thought I was attention seeking or whatever.

But I am afraid to be around him mentally, his words are weapons.

Yea he is def more of an NPD than BPD. Though he has traits.


Hmm that'll be interesting to see how that goes! I'd be nervous too. I once went to a gig with him and felt unsafe. Lucky one of his female friends came and I just hung out with her the whole time and than it was actually okay That's good you feel safe around him. I hope to feel that way about someone.

Are you guys friends? Or will be happening to be at the same place at the same time?

Aww good, I bet you were glad she went then. I think it's because his the father of my child and I see him as the "man" that's supposed to protect me but in reality physically if I did faint he wouldn't be there for me and mentally well that's a different story. It didn't sound so weird in my head !

Me and BPD are keeping mutual for our daughter and I'm planning to go N/C at some point very soon and only contact via email. I know two of his friends but meeting one his got right on the pedalstall tomorrow because all I hear at the moment "X this, x that" so that should be fun ! We've just all planned to meet together and I've rather put up with hell than face going totally alone. Plus I stupidly ordered an extra ticket as ex told me to in case my mates wanted to go but they don't like that kinda music so he found one of his, they'll be about five of us but all of these friends are totally up his hoo-har !

Are you on LC/Nc with your ex?

[Kelli Cornett]

I'm sorry to hear that happened to you and all I can say what a total ASS!  . I'm glad your keeping yourself safe, good for you. Stick to those boundaries.

I strangely feel safe with my BPDEX I know he wouldn't hurt me physically or anything, like the gig I'm stupidly going to tomorrow with him and I have anxiety that the tragic thing that happened in France will happen at the gig I'm going to I know, stupid, but I know if his around I'm safe, I cant explain it. I don't know if because of his build or a mental thing.   Even though he has 0% empathy, twice I fainted when pregnant with our daughter but he thought I was attention seeking or whatever.

But I am afraid to be around him mentally, his words are weapons.

Yea he is def more of an NPD than BPD. Though he has traits.


Hmm that'll be interesting to see how that goes! I'd be nervous too. I once went to a gig with him and felt unsafe. Lucky one of his female friends came and I just hung out with her the whole time and than it was actually okay That's good you feel safe around him. I hope to feel that way about someone.

Are you guys friends? Or will be happening to be at the same place at the same time?

Aww good, I bet you were glad she went then. I think it's because his the father of my child and I see him as the "man" that's supposed to protect me but in reality physically if I did faint he wouldn't be there for me and mentally well that's a different story. It didn't sound so weird in my head !

Me and BPD are keeping mutual for our daughter and I'm planning to go N/C at some point very soon and only contact via email. I know two of his friends but meeting one his got right on the pedalstall tomorrow because all I hear at the moment "X this, x that" so that should be fun ! We've just all planned to meet together and I've rather put up with hell than face going totally alone. Plus I stupidly ordered an extra ticket as ex told me to in case my mates wanted to go but they don't like that kinda music so he found one of his, they'll be about five of us but all of these friends are totally up his hoo-har !

Are you on LC/Nc with your ex?

Wow good luck with that! I hope it goes okay! Let us know! Ugh I actually had a terrible incident with last night. I was gonna write a post about it. He's such a bad dude :/

[Climbmountains91]

I'm sorry to hear that happened to you and all I can say what a total ASS!  . I'm glad your keeping yourself safe, good for you. Stick to those boundaries.

I strangely feel safe with my BPDEX I know he wouldn't hurt me physically or anything, like the gig I'm stupidly going to tomorrow with him and I have anxiety that the tragic thing that happened in France will happen at the gig I'm going to I know, stupid, but I know if his around I'm safe, I cant explain it. I don't know if because of his build or a mental thing.   Even though he has 0% empathy, twice I fainted when pregnant with our daughter but he thought I was attention seeking or whatever.

But I am afraid to be around him mentally, his words are weapons.

Yea he is def more of an NPD than BPD. Though he has traits.


Hmm that'll be interesting to see how that goes! I'd be nervous too. I once went to a gig with him and felt unsafe. Lucky one of his female friends came and I just hung out with her the whole time and than it was actually okay That's good you feel safe around him. I hope to feel that way about someone.

Are you guys friends? Or will be happening to be at the same place at the same time?

Aww good, I bet you were glad she went then. I think it's because his the father of my child and I see him as the "man" that's supposed to protect me but in reality physically if I did faint he wouldn't be there for me and mentally well that's a different story. It didn't sound so weird in my head !

Me and BPD are keeping mutual for our daughter and I'm planning to go N/C at some point very soon and only contact via email. I know two of his friends but meeting one his got right on the pedalstall tomorrow because all I hear at the moment "X this, x that" so that should be fun ! We've just all planned to meet together and I've rather put up with hell than face going totally alone. Plus I stupidly ordered an extra ticket as ex told me to in case my mates wanted to go but they don't like that kinda music so he found one of his, they'll be about five of us but all of these friends are totally up his hoo-har !

Are you on LC/Nc with your ex?

Wow good luck with that! I hope it goes okay! Let us know! Ugh I actually had a terrible incident with last night. I was gonna write a post about it. He's such a bad dude :/

Aww no  sorry to hear that. You can always private message me if you want or don't know if you've shared it haven't had proper chance to look at the boards.

I've got a post on this part of the forum called "gig dread" I've updated there.

[Michelle27]

I am afraid of my ex.  I've caught him stalking me and I have reason to believe he bugged my phone as he knew things I had talked about with my girlfriends even when we weren't together.  The day he moved out of our home, I changed the locks and have gone from leaving my front door unlocked throughout the day as I live in a safe neighborhood, to keeping it locked at all times.  I am watching closely when I'm driving to see if he's around.  He has done things he claims no memory of, including having sex with me and others.  I am rationally aware that the chances of him doing something now after almost 6 months since he moved out and 3 months since he's had any contact with our daughter.  But I am still taking precautions.  I know he moved to another city and quit his job here, so the chances aren't good that he won't hunt me down, but I am still afraid.   He is lying to others about being in contact with his daughter and also telling people that I was actually abusive towards him so he is absolutely capable of anything.  I do think he also is brewing resentment that I ended the marriage as I now realize how financially dependent on me he was. 

[Kelli Cornett]

I'm sorry to hear that happened to you and all I can say what a total ASS!  . I'm glad your keeping yourself safe, good for you. Stick to those boundaries.

I strangely feel safe with my BPDEX I know he wouldn't hurt me physically or anything, like the gig I'm stupidly going to tomorrow with him and I have anxiety that the tragic thing that happened in France will happen at the gig I'm going to I know, stupid, but I know if his around I'm safe, I cant explain it. I don't know if because of his build or a mental thing.   Even though he has 0% empathy, twice I fainted when pregnant with our daughter but he thought I was attention seeking or whatever.

But I am afraid to be around him mentally, his words are weapons.

Yea he is def more of an NPD than BPD. Though he has traits.


Hmm that'll be interesting to see how that goes! I'd be nervous too. I once went to a gig with him and felt unsafe. Lucky one of his female friends came and I just hung out with her the whole time and than it was actually okay That's good you feel safe around him. I hope to feel that way about someone.

Are you guys friends? Or will be happening to be at the same place at the same time?

Aww good, I bet you were glad she went then. I think it's because his the father of my child and I see him as the "man" that's supposed to protect me but in reality physically if I did faint he wouldn't be there for me and mentally well that's a different story. It didn't sound so weird in my head !

Me and BPD are keeping mutual for our daughter and I'm planning to go N/C at some point very soon and only contact via email. I know two of his friends but meeting one his got right on the pedalstall tomorrow because all I hear at the moment "X this, x that" so that should be fun ! We've just all planned to meet together and I've rather put up with hell than face going totally alone. Plus I stupidly ordered an extra ticket as ex told me to in case my mates wanted to go but they don't like that kinda music so he found one of his, they'll be about five of us but all of these friends are totally up his hoo-har !

Are you on LC/Nc with your ex?

Wow good luck with that! I hope it goes okay! Let us know! Ugh I actually had a terrible incident with last night. I was gonna write a post about it. He's such a bad dude :/

Aww no  sorry to hear that. You can always private message me if you want or don't know if you've shared it haven't had proper chance to look at the boards.

I've got a post on this part of the forum called "gig dread" I've updated there.

Great! I'll check it out! About to update too!