Granddaughters and Social Services

[penny52]

Just got back from Social Services, sounds like they are going to take the grandkids (3 & 6) from my udBPD27 daughter, I'm feeling pretty bad about the whole thing, I kept a journal for the last 4 months about her behaviors and handed it over to them so they could see what has been happening.   I wish... I wish... is going be my refrain today. I know in my head it is the best for the kids and her, but I also know this is going to long hard struggle for everyone involved.  And so it begins, I hope she gets the help she needs.  I hope everyone doesn't end up hating me for getting involved this way.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[lbjnltx]

Hi penny25,

Oh dear.  I'm so sorry it has come to this.  Did your d not continue the family therapy that was ordered by the courts?  Just gd6?  How are gd6 and gd3 doing for the past month or so?

Was there ever a ruling on the abuse allegations your d made against her ex?

Are you considering taking in the girls?

lbj

[penny52]

No, my d said she was going to counseling but never went, and the Social Services are still not sure that the ex really even did anything abusive, but they do agree he needed counseling too.  The kids are seem ok, she moved to a different town about 45 miles away so I don't get to see them like I used too, but I saw them for Easter and they all seemed fine. But I know she is abusing pain meds so that alone has to be odd for them, not to mention her poorly modulating emotions around everyone the last few months. The one bright spot is that SS is going have the granddaughters stay with me until some of this gets sorted, but as with all things this of this nature it is going to take time. Maybe, SS just talking to my daughter about some of this will help her find her way back, I hate to see a family split like this and would love to have her start therapy with the kids still there, I know she loves them.   

[Rockieplace]

I feel so sorry about your situation.  If this doesn't provide the motivation to your daughter to at least get professional help then nothing will!  Lots of hugs and positive thoughts.

[Lollypop]

Hi penny52

I just wanted to say that it's awful in a crisis and it must feel unbearable with little ones. I think it' s good thing that there is this crisis because it will bring change and I sincerely hope it works out for everybody's sake.

SS got involved with my niece and her son who was about 7. It happened at her lowest point and thankfully was her turning point. She was a similar age to your daughter.  It look a long time, with a few hiccups along the way.

Thinking about you

L

[penny52]

Thank you everyone for your positive words, I'll try to keep you all updated, I'm sure this is a turn for the better in the long run.