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I have been manipulative in my spare time
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I just want to keep this as short as possible so for that reason I'm just repeating that I was cheated on right before we broke up. My story is Elsewhere on here so I don't need to go into it
So we all go through these periods of wanting revenge or being angry xcetera at times I'm sure or at least most of us do.
You can't get any satisfaction out of actually having an adult conversation. So in the last couple weeks I've been kind of a stinker so I thought I would share just in the interest of amusement
A few weeks ago we tied up pretty much all of our loose ends as I've also mentioned this prior elsewhere.
Seeing as how my ex manipulated the heck out of me and I had no idea for the entire duration and I never tried to do that to her I decided that I would use some of the information that she gave me 2 see how she would react and just for clarification I'm still not sure where this will end up
I'll explain. My ex told me that she dated a married man a long time ago which really bothered me. When we broke up she suggested that I remove her as a Facebook friend so I wouldn't be tempted to look at her page because she said that she Facebook stalked her ex for 7 years. That alone seemed troubling to me but I
Digress. She was on Facebook every single day we were dating and I very rarely ever go on the thing so I did what she suggested and I temporarily suspended my account. I did it for me because I just didn't even want to be tempted to see anything. However I knew that she would eventually try to look at my page because I just know how she is.
So since she knows that I am such a rare user a Facebook anything that I would post on there would be insignificant. Keep in mind I tried to get her to just speak with me and I told her I was even open to being friends since that's what she had begged me to do
At this point she doesn't seem to want to be friends so anyway I started talking to some other really pretty girls even though I knew that they might not be interested in me and then I asked the girls to be Facebook friends. Then I turn my profile back on and not only that but I made my timeline public and made everything visible because I knew she would not be able to resist checking it since she's on there several times a day.
Then the manipulation went further I figured that once it's said that me and a particular girl were friends it would arouse her curiosity because I rarely ever add a friend. Then I sat there and waited 4 days and then I decided I'm going to go on and block her because if I block her she will think that my supposedly new girlfriend would not want her to be able to see our stuff or that I would not want her to and that she would think that I actually have a new girlfriend.
Then I thought two steps ahead knowing that she probably has fake Facebook account and would still find a way to look stuff up so I kept everything public. Then I started dating another girl for real although it's very casual and she knows the situation. I'm not using this girl in any way told her to please feel free to date.
Anyway this girl has the same first name as my ex-wife and another ex-girlfriend so I made a post about whether or not it was appropriate to keep dating a girl with the same name.
You can kind of see what I'm doing here it's like you know you went and cheated on me rather than come and talk to me and I know you still care and some level because of all the things that you told me about what a great guy I was and how much you have loved me and thanking me for everything I ever did for you excetera
So yeah I'm sitting here thinking she is looking at everything and then the day after I made the post about dating the girl with the same name is when I started getting private views to my LinkedIn account. Obviously I don't know if it's her but if it is it is giving me some sort of satisfaction because it really did hurt my feelings and there's no way to talk to her so I guess I was hoping that maybe she would see what it felt like to see that the other person had moved on even if I really havent 100 percent
Meanwhile I am actually having fun being single again finally and I'm not that upset butt I do hope it makes her contact me and say something.
Fortunately she's harmless so I don't think she would ever try to do anything to me she might be sad that I'm moving on but that is about the extent of her anger period while hoping that she doesn't cut herself or anything butt it's not like I'm not allowed to move on and date somebody. I guess I have been trying to give her a taste of her own medicine since I genuinely cared for her and tried to help with anything that she asked for and I just can't forget that she cheated on me
This isn't normally like me so I just thought I'd share because it was kind of fun to do because I planned it out so elaborately trying to imagine what she would be doing and thinking. Yes I'm sure this makes me sick on some level but I had some spare time and I thought it would be fun. Please don't judge me.
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Slight correction as I was using voice text I was trying to say that anything I would post on Facebook would be significant because I'm such a rare user and poster and she would know that
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