Thinking I'm being manipulated

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Hello everyone

So thinking about the last convo with my exBPDgf 3 weeks ago. Her and her bf told me I either take my son 3 days a week or they will give him to a family in another state. I then said if my ex doesn't want to care for him then give him to me. They reply that if I give up my rights they won't give him to the family.

They are engaged so my question is what kind of idiot is this guy that he's trying to tell me what to do? Then give my son up and marry my ex?

What part of stupid is he? He wants to marry a woman who refuses to care for her only child? What future is he dreaming about or is he just as crazy as mom?

Very confusing

Still shaking my head after that conversation

[JerryRG]

Hello everyone

So thinking about the last convo with my exBPDgf 3 weeks ago. Her and her bf told me I either take my son 3 days a week or they will give him to a family in another state. I then said if my ex doesn't want to care for him then give him to me. They reply that if I give up my rights they won't give him to the family.

They are engaged so my question is what kind of idiot is this guy that he's trying to tell me what to do? Then give my son up and marry my ex?

What part of stupid is he? He wants to marry a woman who refuses to care for her only child? What future is he dreaming about or is he just as crazy as mom?

Very confusing

Still shaking my head after that conversation

[bpdsenior]

Do what is best for your child and YOU.  Your stability is all the child has.

You are being manipulated... .so horrible when it involves child "bargains".

Your rhetorical ? indicate you may not have come to grips with the size of the problem.  Take your kid full time if they don't want him or her.  Otherwise you don't have a complaint as a dad.

Feel good that they would do that and let the GF go; just be sure to get parental rights signed and legal.  In the meantime take them as offered or more.

say yes to the 365 day offer. you can do it.  If they think you will do that, they may reconsider.  But don't count on it.  Your kid will be better away from them.

You can do it.

[JerryRG]

Thank you BPDsenior

When I said I would take my son full time they refused to allow that.

Still unsure what they were saying

I was wondering if they both are nuts

[peace74]

Jerry,

Sounds to me like they are trying to manipulate you.  You have to think like them to get it.  Sounds like they are trying to get you to sign over your parental rights but are just doing it in a crazy way.  Like saying if you sign over your rights they won't send your child to another family.  I think she has every intention of keeping your son.  She's just trying to scare you and threaten you.  Don't fall for any of this and don't play into their deluded games.  Try to work with her as best you can regarding visitation and do what you can to get something set up through the courts. 

[JerryRG]

Thanks peace74

I think they are both nuts, and I'm not playing their game. I hope they both emplode on their shared delusions. God help my poor son.