It's been a long time

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It's been a long time since I have posted here.  It seems I can't find time for anything.  Since my last visit my baby is now six months old, my S9 has been diagnosed with Austim and I am going to have his twin D9 evaluated too, my D14 has Anxiety and has been having panic attacks, my BPDh's mother died which has him lashing out constantly at me and the kids.  Threats to the kids, threats towards me, because "you are all crazy, I hope that D6m doesn't t get that sh*t"-BPDh said last night.  He makes the whole house anxious.  I feel like I have hit a brick wall.  I don't think I can bite my tongue anymore without biting it off.  Where do I go from here?  I am scared to find out.

[Smileypants]

It's been a long time since I have posted here.  It seems I can't find time for anything.  Since my last visit my baby is now six months old, my S9 has been diagnosed with Austim and I am going to have his twin D9 evaluated too, my D14 has Anxiety and has been having panic attacks, my BPDh's mother died which has him lashing out constantly at me and the kids.  Threats to the kids, threats towards me, because "you are all crazy, I hope that D6m doesn't t get that sh*t"-BPDh said last night.  He makes the whole house anxious.  I feel like I have hit a brick wall.  I don't think I can bite my tongue anymore without biting it off.  Where do I go from here?  I am scared to find out.

[C.Stein]

I know how hard it is to bite your tongue when you feel wronged.  The urge to defend yourself, to JADE, is quite strong.  I am happy to hear you have refrained from it so far.  You certainly don't want to add to the anxious household.

Have you had a chance to read A 3 Minute Lesson on Ending Conflict

How about the workshops and tools available in the box on the right of the page?

Check out the workshops on communication. 

https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?board=36.0;sort=subject

The idea here is the learn how to communicate more effectively with your husband without adding to the chaos, especially in regard to addressing issues related to the kids.

[Smileypants]

I will go back and read them again.  I tried so hard to make it better by not setting him off, walking away, but since he doesn't believe anything is wrong with him, is not being treated for his bi polar or BPD.  How can it get better?

[C.Stein]

I will go back and read them again.  I tried so hard to make it better by not setting him off, walking away, but since he doesn't believe anything is wrong with him, is not being treated for his bi polar or BPD.  How can it get better?

He won't get better unless he accepts he needs help and pursues it for his own personal health and growth.  That said, you can learn how to better manage your communication with him and hopefully find a peaceful resolution to the issues that are impacting the kids.

Please feel free to ask any questions you might have.   There are many people here who have been in/ are in a similar situation and can help.