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« on: July 01, 2016, 12:52:53 PM »

It looks like all my family members have their own thread now.

I am not feeling well this morning so I hope this post is not disjointed. I'm having to manage a really strong feeling of anger right now but because I'm currently lightheaded and suffering from emotional stress, well I actually already walked 3.72 miles today. I could try to do some yoga but I don't feel well enough to do that right now. I will ride my bike in about 45 minutes so that should help. I'm not used to not being healthy.

Ok so I posted yesterday or the day before on Facebook that I was thinking about opening a second business but I wasn't sure if that was a good idea right now. So last night my brother called me while I was in the tub and started peppering with questions and advice. I was like "brother, I already had a sole proprietorship, I know how to do this, I'm just not sure right now is the right time". He started bragging about he has a c corporation (he is a headhunter, he works for himself) and how much he dislikes taxes. I was thinking to myself "shut up".

Then because my doctor asked me yesterday if there was any family history of heart problems I had to ask him and I found out he has an irregular heart rhythm! Then he told me he has migraines because he got sports injuries, he is supposed to take medication but he refuses because it makes him gain weight. Then when I told him about one of his symptoms he reminded me his son was born with a congenital heart defect.

I had to tell my whole family I was diagnosed with lightheadedness and emotional stress on top of my ptsd yesterday. My mother not got back to me about any heart disease on her side of the family.

I am so angry. At least my dad and my brother gave me some information.

To my brother's credit I called him and asked him in the rare case I had to go to the ER today would he pick my daughter up after work and he said yes, despite the fact his girlfriend told me to never talk to her again since I called her out on Facebook for slandering my dad publicly.

What a mess.

But like I said at least my brother is willing to take care of my daughter if I have to go to the ER. Her father still hasn't gone back to me as far as I know. I blocked him yesterday but he can still leave me a message.

Geez, what a crisis, how annoying.
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« Reply #1 on: July 01, 2016, 04:19:07 PM »

Quote from: unicorn2014
Ok so I posted yesterday or the day before on Facebook that I was thinking about opening a second business but I wasn't sure if that was a good idea right now. So last night my brother called me while I was in the tub and started peppering with questions and advice.

Why did you post on Facebook?  If you post something on Facebook, you have to anticipate that anyone who has access to read it can reply to you in some manner (either by Facebook or email, text, phone, etc.).  :)ig deep and ask yourself why did you post on Facebook, when you could have journaled somewhere private?  Are you setting yourself up for drama?

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What a mess. . . .Geez, what a crisis, how annoying.

Sometime, we may find that we need to step back and examine our thought processes and realize that we may have let our minds have run-away thoughts and need to tame those thoughts.

The question that a primary care doctor asks about family heart history is a common one.  My primary care doctor has asked it a couple of times, during an annual visit.  The last time the subject was addressed, he said the main thing physicians are interested in are heart attacks/artery clogs at a rather young age.  

Why has the issue of heart disease in your family become an area for you to hyper focus on?

PTSD versus stress?  I'm thinking that stress is part of PTSD (or an alternate way to label it).  Why are you alarmed that your doctor said you have stress?  Why might you be stressing yourself out about being stressed?

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He started bragging about he has a c corporation (he is a headhunter, he works for himself) and how much he dislikes taxes. I was thinking to myself "shut up".

I think most of us, if we look at ourselves honesty, will find times when we have gone on a tangent, during a conversation. In hindsight, I've thought of occasions when I was better off saying a lot less.  Why did you take the call from your brother if you really didn't want to talk to him?  Appears as if you took the call at a very inconvenient time.

You are doing well with your exercise today.  Maybe some mind-taming exercise would be beneficial.  Check out this link.  You might want to print out the list of possible mental exercise to try.  I'm thinking something there could be helpful.

EXERCISE - IMPROVE THE MOMENT WORKSHEET   www.dbtselfhelp.com/html/improve_the_moment_worksheet.html
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« Reply #2 on: July 01, 2016, 04:48:04 PM »

Why did you post on Facebook?  If you post something on Facebook, you have to anticipate that anyone who has access to read it can reply to you in some manner (either by Facebook or email, text, phone, etc.).  

Lol! Um, no. I posted on Facebook because not only are my client and my teacher on Facebook, but so are my friends who are artists and I wanted their opinions. I just added my brother back after unfriending after his girlfriend slandered my father on Facebook than got really defensive.

I can block my brother on my iPhone just like I've blocked my mother, ex husband, and ex fiancé.

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What a mess. . . .Geez, what a crisis, how annoying.

Sometime, we may find that we need to step back and examine our thought processes and realize that we may have let our minds have run-away thoughts and need to tame those thoughts.

Um, I actually am having a health care crisis and then after talking to someone else who suffers from PTSD I found out I was not experiencing SOB but hyperventilation and you can have a perfect pulse and blood pressure and still be suffering an anxiety attack.
Look, there is something very stressful going on in my life that is not my ex fiancé , it is my probate case and there was an incident yesterday involving my , never mind.
I have a lawsuit, ok? Its stressing me out, not my brother. I can block him. I can't close my case. That's the bottom line and end of story and it is the item that all this pivots around.

The question that a primary care doctor asks about family heart history is a common one.  My primary care doctor has asked it a couple of times, during an annual visit.  The last time the subject was addressed, he said the main thing physicians are interested in are heart attacks/artery clogs at a rather young age.  

Um, hi, this was not an annual visit, I got an EKG and got diagnosed with lightheadedness and emotional stress and got a thyroid check for my dizziness and giddiness as well as the usual tests for my PTSD a month early. I'm having physical symptoms right now. I have a medical condition.

Why has the issue of heart disease in your family become an area for you to hyper focus on?

Dude, I assume you are a male, sorry if you are not, did you not read what is going on with my health right now?

PTSD versus stress?  I'm thinking that stress is part of PTSD (or an alternate way to label it).  Why are you alarmed that your doctor said you have stress?  Why might you be stressing yourself out about being stressed?

Um, no, this is a new symptom. I've had PTSD for 10 years, I've NEVER been diagnosed with emotional shock and stress before. Its because I broke up with my uBPDNPD partner on Saturday. That's what's going on with me and I'm not allowed to talk about that on BPD family.com either!

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He started bragging about he has a c corporation (he is a headhunter, he works for himself) and how much he dislikes taxes. I was thinking to myself "shut up".
I think most of us, if we look at ourselves honesty, will find times when we have gone on a tangent, during a conversation. In hindsight, I've thought of occasions when I was better off saying a lot less.  Why did you take the call from your brother if you really didn't want to talk to him?  Appears as if you took the call at a very inconvenient time.

Because I was in an emergency and wanted to ask him if he could take care of my daughter if I had to go the ER today. I know I am not a bad writer so that's not the problem here.

You are doing well with your exercise today.  Maybe some mind-taming exercise would be beneficial.  Check out this link.  You might want to print out the list of possible mental exercise to try.  I'm thinking something there could be helpful.

I do well with my exercise every day! I'm an athlete! My whole family is athletic!
I've had 3 years of DBT and a decade of CBT. I know all this... .but I'll check your link anyways.
Look, my ex finance's father told me I could be a health care professional as did my client, so, the reason I am not pursuing a health care career is because I am raising my daughter on my own. I must write like I'm unintelligent.

EXERCISE - IMPROVE THE MOMENT WORKSHEET   www.dbtselfhelp.com/html/improve_the_moment_worksheet.html
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