BPD friends?

[luckyclover]

One question people My ex, we are all talking about our ex. What do friends of them think why do they don't say anything?

For examlpe me and my ex posted alot of photos on facebook kissing and smile got many many like. But now few months later she is doing the same but with new guy and same people put like and write comment how cute thay are and look great togheter. Same comment they said about me few months ago.

I dont know how it was before i meet her but this is maybe guy number 100 so her friend are used to it. I saw one guy comment on her photo "hopefully i will meet you before you get new one" she deleted it. That acctually said alot for me haha.

[seenr]

I was going to raise this as a new topic yesterday but my friends did talk about her. Here are some of the things that were said to me.

She is not a nice person.

She is a ***t.

I just never know what is ok to say around her.

She hates when the centre of attention is off her.

She is evil.

Not good to hear friends say this about the woman I planned to marry.



This is what her friends/family said to me

You are boyfriend number x and you are a good guy. Everyone else cannot be wrong.

We like you, we don't know you we are relying on what she says.

She has extreme anger issues.

Our family was quite normal - one person made life difficult and you are with her.



Make of it what you will... .

[luckyclover]

My relationship was only for 6 good months i did never meet her family but she was showing them photos of me and i talked to them on skype. So they were never close to my. But i saw  how much they liked me. Somehow i understood that i was the right one for there girl maybe she had find the right one to be with.

[asphyx]

I've noticed BPDs tend to be friends with other Cluster B's, it's extremely common for them to hang around each other. So they probably think that this behaviour is normal. Healthy people tend to notice something is weird about them after a while, and stay away.

[luckyclover]

It is possible ofc. But not all her friends and family. One thing i have notice her sister do not like or comment on her new boy. But did on my photos haha. I know i am thinking to much about this.

[Xstang77]

I go through the same thing,her friends that told her how good I was for her will like her pictures of her and her rebound.ill tell you this these people don't usually just have issues with romantic relationships it relationships in general,if you look for it I know I have there very stormy with close friends as well,a lot of their friends usually know things aren't quite right however a lot of them keep enabling however.also a lot of Thier friends are somewhat dysfunctional as well I know strong willed healthy people would intimidate my ex.

[Meili]

I've noticed BPDs tend to be friends with other Cluster B's, it's extremely common for them to hang around each other. So they probably think that this behaviour is normal. Healthy people tend to notice something is weird about them after a while, and stay away.

Well, per my T, (and lots of sources online) everyone tends to associate with people on the same emotional maturity level as themselves.

Let that sink in for a moment... .

[Leonis]

Well, chances are, pwBPD tends to not have "friends" or they are some mega best buddy who lives in another state.

Using my ex as an example, I didn't think much of her not having any immediate friends as a red flag at the time because I figured being so close to graduating college and having friends getting married, etc. would mean that anyone's social circle is in for reorganization.

Turns out, she didn't have any close friends. She vowed that she'll change that after our breakup. Well, we shall see.