Nothing's changed. Stil in hell

[Sadgirl92]

She seen a psych doc and basically lied to her. Didn't tell her her real feelings. What's really going on. The doctor gave her six Ativan to help with the tantrums. Yes I call them tantrums cuz I'm so sick of this. Not to her face tho cuz I might just get punched in the face for that. So I had to call the doctor and cry and beg for more pills. She said call her back in 6 days and we can revaluate. Ativan is the only thing that will keep her from freaking out. Ya she has a long road ahead but why won't the doctor help us in the meantime? Help us so the cops won't come or so She doesn't hit me so my parents don't have to walk on Eggshells.

I have a psych appt this week. I'm just so fed up and mad and disgusted. Sick of this life. I've been single for seven years cuz who would want to date me with a person in my life that freaks out every three days. She doesn't do the boundary thing without the whole house feeling it. I'm very sad I'm in this life. I don't know what my next step is.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Bpd mother]

I am so sorry you are going through this pain no one should live in fear that their loved one may punch them .
Is there any way that your daughter could move out , into a hostel or a small bed sit. I am the last person in the world to advise no contact with our children but I think you need to make your own mental and physical health a priority. You sound as if you are at the end of what you can cope with.

I am glad you have an appointment for yourself and I hope this helps

I don't know if you are religious at all but I will pray for you. Take care of yourself

[Kwamina]

Hi again Sadgirl92,

I have a psych appt this week. I'm just so fed up and mad and disgusted. Sick of this life. I've been single for seven years cuz who would want to date me with a person in my life that freaks out every three days. She doesn't do the boundary thing without the whole house feeling it. I'm very sad I'm in this life. I don't know what my next step is.

The situation with your daughter isn't easy at all and I can definitely see why this would make you sad and tired. It would be great if this could all just be turned around in an instance, yet unfortunately it will often require more time. As hard as things currently are, my advice would be to take it one step at a time and not look ahead too much to worry about all those next steps. The current situation and step are already difficult enough.

Therapy can take time and also sometimes it might take time to find a therapist who is a right fit. The positive thing is that there at least is a doctor involved and hopefully this will (in time) lead to your daughter getting the appropriate help.

I am glad you are also getting some help for yourself and have a your own psych appointment. Having a support network can be invaluable so I definitely think this is a good move, especially considering your daughter's often extreme and violent behaviors. In your other thread I mentioned the safety first and family crisis planning resources to you. Have you found anything in there that might help you deal with all of this? Anything that might aide you in develop or fine-tuning a strategy for managing this complex situation with your daughter?

You have mentioned your own parents in several of your posts. Do all of you (you, your daughter and parents) live in the same house?

Take care

The Board Parrot