Does anybody tend to "forget" that our partners are disordered?

[michel71]

I do. I have to remind myself that she does not process things like I would. I forget that she sees the relationship through a completely different lens.

I constantly have to remind myself of that especially on an emotional day like today when she is moving out.

I come back to this BOARD again and again to remain centered.

I am out of town so thank God I don't have to watch it unfold in front of my eyes. At least that is a blessing.

Reaching out for support today. Just need to get through it and stay in reality.

[ShadowA]

I actually wrote this very topic a while back.

I tend to forget whenever we are together. However when things don't work out, I end up remembering.

I think I forget  because I have false fantasies and hopes that it'll be better the next time around.

[oshinko maki]

I am able to keep it in mind pretty consistently now, but years ago I would be surprised frequently, particularly at the lying and paranoid reactions.

[vortex of confusion]

Yep, I forget a lot, especially after he has a good day with the kids.

Hang in there!

Whenever I momentarily forget and try to relate to him normally, it doesn't take long for him to say or do something to remind me that he doesn't not see things like a normal person does.

[ortac77]

i try to forget, but am beginning to realise that things are never normal and never can be normal. He has just apologised for ruining my birthday, and yes I know it is his illness that does it and I am meant to be sympathetic, but no today I am angry and an apology is not going to wash - disordered or not it can make me disordered - I have emotions too so he can go to hell and if he wallows in guilt so be it - I am going out tomorrow and am determined to have a nice day on my own.

Out of sympathy today and just maybe for good