Stalking

[rosie0523]

My BPD daughter is being charged with stalking a long time friend.  The two, both with serious mental issues, had a major falling out about ten months ago.  My daughter, who says she wants to never have anything to do with this person has, apparently, been trying to regain the friendship by constantly calling, following, leaving notes and little presents and even bothering this lady’s neighbors to find out where she is.  The friend has now filed a request for a restraining order.  My daughter is denying this and is planning to tell her story in court.  My daughter’s  boyfriend of six years passed away a few months before this all started.  She lost him and then also this friend.  My daughter does not acknowledge that she has any problems, it’s everyone else.  I’ve convinced her to see a counselor but my daughter is manipulative and only wants the counselor to support her, so she does not speak the truth.  This type of behavior has been going on for the last forty years. For her son, my grandson, he has lived with this for all of his 21 years. Her behavior has severely impacted our lives and we are at a loss as to what to do.  Thank you.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Swimmy55]

Hi and I am sorry you are going through this. Does your daughter live with you? Also, good she is in therapy.  Manipulation is unfortunately very common,  and maybe the therapist will be aware? Hard to say.  However, have you considered therapy for you? You made a great 1st step reaching out to this forum.  We all need a network of support dealing with our adult BPD. Please write in as you are able.  This group is here for you..