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« on: May 02, 2017, 09:32:10 PM »

So tonite after my counciling session I pushed myself out for a walk and came upon a neighbor I'm friendly with and his dog... .well with him was the girl that is his caretaker.   I've seen her for many years and never did she talk to me... .but tonite as her hand reached out to say hello... .I was stunned... .I had thought for weeks about what I would say and how I would approach her ... .but I didn't say anything as just want to keep things to small talk right now.

It's sorta like now that this is a reality I'm just not sure what to make of it.

I would never go into details or expose him... .but there is away I'm thinking of just bringing him up in conversation ... .and see if she says anything.  Just something inoccent .   
I've been told she is crazy, she and the guy aren't to be trusted, she tried to run him over , she has invited him inside etc.   they both seem nice to me. 
I wouldn't risk anything getting back to him without making sure they have indeed had issues too.   
One nite after a date he pointed out her car to me... .it was the strangest thing. 
When I almost moved to a house next to the guy my x made a big deal that I would be living next to him.
My gut says something happened... .
I've done this before a few years back before we were involved and a neighbor told me my x had emotional issues... .   

Regardless I'm reclaiming my neighborhood and getting my life back I'm done sitting inside because he's walking streets, where he doesn't even live and knows more about people then we do living here.   For years I avoided those two ... not anymore.

I'm just going to observe when I can... .and possibly make some new friends in the process. 
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« Reply #1 on: May 04, 2017, 07:53:54 AM »

Hi Idsrvt2,

If I'm reading this right, your walk brought you into contact with the ex-parter of your ex?
And she's seeing your neighbor now?

I like the idea of not being a prisoner in your own home and making new friends. In your shoes, I'd let sleeping dogs lie and observe from afar.  Smiling (click to insert in post)

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