Why Is This So Hard

[Rosey87]

Just a horrible day. Got a new job yesterday, making great money and can get all my affairs in order from the aftermath and move from my girlfriend/ex. All I want is fix this situation. I don't know why I, or even many of us are in this situation. We gave all we could, time after time, sure I got angry and we had arguments, but this?
This sucks so much. I didn't do anything. I gave her everything she wanted or asked for.

I worked my ass off to give her the home she wanted. I bought her pets, presents, I gave her love and affection everyday.
She said I never loved her.
I kissed her every morning on the cheek before I went to work, told her I loved her forever and always.

I get mad one time around her family and let my opinion be heard and I'm the anti-christ. I just want my life back. I've had everything torn from beneath me in five minutes. I gave her 800 dollars out of my tax refund. God, I'm so confused. I just want some answers. Why am I devalued? Why did we have to go through this?

I'm just angry right now.

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[msh28]

Were you discarded as well?

So was I, about two months ago, feels sh** I know.

Just know there was nothing you could have done, you could have been the most perfect person in the world and it still would of happened. It's messed up, I know. I've being reading and reading and reading and the more I realise, the harder it gets. We're basically just objects as messed up as it sounds.

[Rosey87]

I guess I was discarded. I don't get it. I did EVERYTHING. I have to wait. I wish I didn't. If we get back together this is time that I can't get back. I'm just so, I'm messed up about everything.

This feels awful and terrible. It's like I'm dealing with her death.

[Meili]

Being hurt, angry, and confused is a natural response to this situation. It takes time sort it all out, but when you do, it may help ease a great deal of the pain.

There is probably a lot going on beneath the surface with your ex. Has she been diagnosed with BPD?

We can help you gain insight into what may have transpired and support you through this horrible time. This site provided me with a great deal of solace when I my relationship first ended with my x.

Like you, I was lost and searching for answer about how she could act the way that she did when I had devoted my entire life to her. What I learned was that the level of devotion I gave her, and my efforts to keep the relationship together were the very things that tore it apart.

Keep reading the posts here, and the lessons in the sidebar on the right side of the page, and you'll start to get a clearer picture of what was actually going on.

I know that it's hard right now and hurts a great deal. I hope that we can help.

[Rosey87]

Thank you, Meili. Yes, she has been diagnosed with BPD. She tells everyone that she has always been split, but I'm the reason she is as diverged as she is.
It's stupid and dumb. I lost everything. My house, my money, her, my friends. She has alienated everyone in my life from me and I still love her.

I'll love her till the end of time. All I want is our life back. To talk to her. It absolutely sucks beyond compare to anything else I've been through, and I've been through much thus far in my life.

Today is not too bad. Yesterday was horrible. All I want is to fix this. My only hope is time, but I don't want to waste it. Thank you again.