My Patience is Getting Thinner

[Pontman]

My situation is probably unbelievable. We've been together for over 40 years and raised 2 children. The outbursts used to come every 6 months or so and then good to great times in between. The last 6 years they've happened more frequently and more "violent". The first year after I retired was pretty good but the last year and a half have been awful. If I get 2 months of peace it's a miracle. She threatened to commit suicide a year ago and spent a few days in a behavioral health facility. They diagnosed her as bipolar and put her Geodon which turned her into a zombie in 6 weeks. After trying 2 other drugs she finally quit them and returned to somewhat normal. After another rage 6 months ago she attempted suicide by taking over 50 Tylenol when I left her. Another stay at the BHU and another diagnosis. After another anger rage in July we've had 2 good months until Last Sunday. I could probably write a whole book but it seems like BPD is the most probable diagnosis. With each episode my patience gets thinner to the point that I don't know if I care anymore. For clarity I care about myself - I'm not in personal jeopardy.

[RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM SOLVING]

RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM SOLVING This is a high level discussion board for solving ongoing, day-to-day relationship conflicts. Members are welcomed to express frustration but must seek constructive solutions to problems. This is not a place for relationship "stay" or "leave" discussions. Please read the specific guidelines for this group.

[WildernessMan]

Pontman - Wow! I bet you're tired. My BPD wife wears me out too. Not at the same level though.

Yeah I'm here trying to get answers myself. But do take care of yourself. Your mental and physical self. Keeping that in mind helps me anyway.

[Mutt]

Hi Pontman,



I'd like to join WildernessMan and welcome you to bpdfamily. I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling overwhelmed, a pwBPD can create a lot of anxiety with people that are close to them. Many of our members can offer you guidance and support you're not alone.

But do take care of yourself. Your mental and physical self.

You both have important points with self care. You have to find the time to spend doing things that you like. A pwBPD offer negative feedback about yourself - it's distortion, you need to balance that out by spending time with family and friends. What's your support network like in real life? What do you do for selfcare?

What does it mean to take care of yourself?

[Tattered Heart]

Hi Pontman,

Welcome . I"m sorry that you are going through a difficult time with your wife. Frequent rages are pretty common with BPD. When she starts to rage, how do you react? What do you do? What kind of things can set her off?