does your BPD spouse call YOU verbally abusive? And how to handle

[Enabler]

I just had a personal moment of inner rage for you standing on the station platform. That massively sucks.

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[Husband321]

Yes... .

Everything makes sense now... .She cannot be alone for one night.

And the way this guy was acting, it definitely seems like it has been going on a while... Not the first day or 2...

[Husband321]

Just adding the end of this story. 

Basically what happened was she met a guy seeking a "live in gf" off of craigslist and is no living with him.  Saw him once or twice. Took a bit to figure this out.  But that is what happened.

4 days not one word text or email from her.

Spoke to her ex husband and he told me she did this to him all the time, off and on for ten years.  Just leave the family and move in with any total stranger she didn't even like. Then come back.

I guess that's the difficulty in these message boards in a way. If someone is that messed up, good at lying, and impulsive no matter how you talk, what you say, or what you do will lead to the same result.