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[Worried Momma]

Hello!

My husband and I have tried desperately to work with our son, and in his best interests, since his wild behavior started at puberty. He is now 23, and it has been an intermittently sad and rough road. Now, even more so, because my husband, and son's father, died last July. Some of my husband's final thoughts were, "I can't leave you with him."

I am reaching out as my son is worth saving, with many beautiful qualities. He is extremely bright and gifted, although learning disabled, with processing difficulties. But, I am concerned for my safety and his. His rages are often, nasty and leave me emotionally and physically drained.

I am interested in learning about resources and am heartened that he can grow out of this. I am looking forward to interacting with the group.

Thank you,

Worried Momma

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Merlot]

Hi Worried Momma

Welcome to the bpdfamily 

Im sorry for the loss of your husband. That must continue to be incredibly difficult for you. Notwithstanding the issues with your son, I can completely understand why you would be drained. 

Im glad you found us here as there is a wealth of information on the board to the right that I hope you find useful

Also many parents here will relate to your story including me. I am cut off from my daughter and GD1 after a violent rage. Parents here are really supporting me through my journey and will support you too.

You are so right about how much we love our children, even when they are hard to like.

Are you finding support through a therapist?

Kind regards
Merlot

[Faith Spring]

Hi Worried mama, I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband.  Is it now just you and your son at home? That could be scary.  I understand why you're afraid of his rage.  I've been in this message board only a few weeks and already feel a sense of friendship here.  I hope you get that feeling too.

Is there anyway you can take a walk when he rages?  I get so scared I forget my options so I keep them now in a folder near my bed.  So when my daughter is raging and I'm alone with her I just look in my folder and see I can go to a movie or to a yoga class- anything to get me out. 

I'm sorry you're here but I'm glad you found us.