feeling lonely,frustrated and isolated for the 20 years

[Depression = 72% of members]

i have been feeling lonely,frustrated and isolated for the 20 years I have been married to my wife.  I have experienced name calling, throwing things, changing history, being blamed by my wife for things that she has done or is doing, her driving recklessly with our children in the car, etc.  A few of my friends have witnessed her behavior and her family is aware of her  behavior but I have learned over the years to avoid most social events for fear of being embarrased by her behavior.  The good news is that I am learning that I am not the only one experiencing this, and that there is an actual name for my wife's behavior BPD.  I am excited about being able to connect with others going through what I am going through.

[mr tiger]

i have been feeling lonely,frustrated and isolated for the 20 years I have been married to my wife.  I have experienced name calling, throwing things, changing history, being blamed by my wife for things that she has done or is doing, her driving recklessly with our children in the car, etc.  A few of my friends have witnessed her behavior and her family is aware of her  behavior but I have learned over the years to avoid most social events for fear of being embarrased by her behavior.  The good news is that I am learning that I am not the only one experiencing this, and that there is an actual name for my wife's behavior BPD.  I am excited about being able to connect with others going through what I am going through.

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[Harri]

Hi mr tiger and welcome to the board.  I am glad you found us but sorry for what brings you here.  You most definitely are not alone and many here, will I'm sure, be able to relate to things you share.  There tends to be a lot of common themes in BPD behaviors.

What would you say is your biggest challenge in your relationship?  It sounds like you have isolated yourself quite a bit.  Is that correct?  Other than us now, do you have outside sources of support?  If not, that is okay but maybe we can help you change that over time.  We have seen a lot of people changes things for the better by using the tools and strategies we talk about here.  things can get better so I am glad you reached out for help.

I hope you feel free to settle in and read and jump into other threads as developing a support system is vital.