Ways to escalate situations where words have to be spoken

[MomSA]

Please can you share examples of how you de-escalate situations where you simply have to say what needs to be said. Do you just say it and let the chips fall where they may?

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[sweetheart]

Can you perhaps give some examples of recurring conflicts that come up for you?

[MomSA]

Asking him to do anything
Redirecting him or his thoughts about our BPD daughter
When he's yelling or lecturing a child unkindly
When a joint expense needs paying
When I want to buy something not approved by him
Examples...could ask anything.